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Topic: Dating
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9/2/2018 3:49:02 PM
Member since:
Jun 2007
Total posts:243

I trying to Date, but it's not working, work shift work, no body to meet at work and have not attend any special interests groups. Tinder and pof no good. I am on medication and can not drink. I am 41 year old male never been married have no kids, have stable job that is flexible. Looking for someone close to the same age range.

Alvin Hansen

9/2/2018 10:29:09 PM
Member since:
Dec 2016
Total posts:113
Similiar Story

I don't own a cell phone, so have never tried apps like Tinder. I HAVE tried dating sites like POF and OK Cupid, but found them to be a waste of time. The diabetic medication I take conflicts with alcohol, so I don't drink either. Nothing to stop you from drinking soft drinks when you go out. Being the designated driver in a group might be a way to meet women. Meeting women from the workplace may not be such a good idea, always the possibility they would play the sexual harassment card if they don't appreciate the attention. I work where Canadians represent MAYBE 10% of the workforce, so trying to communicate with women who speak very little English and are shy is a challenge.


9/3/2018 11:06:25 AM
Member since:
Nov 2010
Total posts:1218

Hate to say this but if you don’t go you won’t meet anyone.  
Suggest joining a club or organization that has something you like doing. Go there to have fun and if you meet someone you meet someone. Don’t put a lot of pressure on yourself.  
A couple of things.  
Be well groomed and clean.  
Be respectful.  
Be open to any age. You find that 50 year old is a real good match for you.  
Don’t pressure for sex. Let it happen when it happens.  
Be open to all women not just your perfect 10. As they aren’t out there.  
All the best.


9/3/2018 12:27:45 PM
Member since:
Sep 2015
Total posts:3
Have fb?

Try ‘Brandon Area Singles’ it’s not a dating group, but it’s for singles to meet and do different activities. It’s a new group. You can suggest an event to do when you aren’t working or join the other events people post.

Alvin Hansen

9/3/2018 4:26:18 PM
Member since:
Dec 2016
Total posts:113
Hobbies &; Organizations

I appreciate your suggestions, but they have certain limitations. Taking up a hobby/activity as a means of meeting women only works when women also enjoy that activity. I love going to Gimli to watch the drags, but I can assure you it wouldn't be a good venue to meet women. The other thing you mentioned was focusing on someone closer to my age. I've never been married, have no children, and really am not interested in hearing about somebody's grandchildren, which is almost a given if meeting someone close to my age.


9/3/2018 4:44:02 PM
Member since:
Dec 2010
Total posts:256
I hear ya on that

Ive given up on meeting mr. Right. People on here want to meet up in a bar or lounge and I very rarely drink (personal choice) and I have a child and some are thrown off with that. Plus it doesn’t help not having a consistent schedule every week. Meeting someone is just not easy and I work in a location with many options but I would rather keep my work and private life separate.


9/3/2018 5:16:52 PM
Member since:
Jun 2007
Total posts:243

I don't have a problem with dating someone with kids.  
If their is a Women in my age group, it would be very rare for them not to have kids.

Cadbury Creme Egg

9/3/2018 10:55:39 PM
Member since:
Before Feb/07
Total posts:52

I know plenty of women in their 30s and 40s who don’t have children, I myself am one. We do exist lol. Some of us prefer to be childless, some can’t physically have any and some haven’t met the right man to have their children.  
I’m afraid of putting myself out there. I quit my favorite hobby of smoking and gained a lot of weight, which adds to insecurity. I get told I have a pretty face but a lot of men go for body, not face, unfortunately.


9/3/2018 11:08:15 PM
Member since:
Nov 2010
Total posts:1218
Conditions on dating

If you have too many conditions on who you are willing to date to find a life time partner you are missing out on great opportunities out there.  
Be open just because you go on date. You aren’t making a commitment. See how it goes. Doesn’t work out move on.


9/4/2018 10:17:27 AM
Member since:
Aug 2012
Total posts:160
hey cream egg.......

Don’t ever discount yourself because you gained some weight from quitting smoking. Some guys like some meat on the bones. You don’t just see skinny gals with boyfriends. Us chubby gals find love too. Not everyone out there is a 10......including the men. Weight should not be the reason you don’t date. Get out there!!


9/15/2018 12:43:19 PM
Member since:
Nov 2011
Total posts:62
Don't give up

I have some disadvantages when it comes to being attractive to a lot of women. I am a part time single parent working long hours and have a busy life, POF after several tries and failures has brought me into an amazing relationship with a spectacular woman...DON'T GIVE UP!!!


9/15/2018 7:07:52 PM
Member since:
Jun 2017
Total posts:259
try one of those international sites

Brandon is a tough place to break into socially if you didn't grow up here...and dating is next to impossible. If anything you'll at least back in the game chatting...Just don't forget the golden rule "never send anyone money for ANYTHING"


9/16/2018 8:27:47 AM
Member since:
Mar 2016
Total posts:331
Scared of rejection

I hated dating in my early teens. Really scared of rejection on the first contact. Can't imagine what it would be like 40 years later!! Terrifying!


9/16/2018 3:29:07 PM
Member since:
Nov 2010
Total posts:1218

Never co-sign for anyone ever especially if you are in a relationship or for a friend. Hate to say it but things can change quickly and your credit rate ruined.  
Never lend money and expect it back. Just write off. And if gets repaid then that’s great.  
Oh never lend money that you can’t afford to  
Never ever have a credit card with anyone.  
But. Get out there and date. If you don’t get out there you won’t find anyone. And they can’t find you.


9/16/2018 10:46:40 PM
Member since:
Jul 2015
Total posts:254
Cadbury cream egg

I give you props! Quitting smoking is a huge feat! Very proud of you! Send me a private message and we could possibly go for coffee!


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