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heartbroken

8/9/2013 8:01:33 AM
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help for men going through divorce

I have been looking for websites and/or help for men going through divorce there is a lot of information out there for women but not a lot for men. any help would be appreciated.

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lovemystery

8/9/2013 8:39:18 AM
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The quiet one

8/9/2013 10:43:59 AM
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here

  
heartbroken said "I have been looking for websites and/or help for men going through divorce there is a lot of information out there for women but not a lot for men. any help would be appreciated. "

i used this group, not sure if brandon, i used the ones in winnipeg when i lived there for a spell  
 
<:A target="_blank" HREF="http://www.divorcecare.org/">:http://www.divorcecare.org/<:/A>:  
 
Edited by The quiet one, 2013-08-09 10:47:41

sammygirl459

8/9/2013 12:04:36 PM
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Help

be prepared and accept that youre going to lose 3/4 of your belongings plus shell out a huge amount of money you'll have to give her and the lawyers

sokolovic

8/9/2013 12:12:20 PM
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sammygirl459 said "be prepared and accept that youre going to lose 3/4 of your belongings plus shell out a huge amount of money you'll have to give her and the lawyers "

Why? What if it was her who was the issue and not him? Why if it is theoretical 50 50 should he have to pay any lawyer other than his own? Just cause he is the guy does not automatically give up most of his stuff.

sammygirl459

8/9/2013 1:00:26 PM
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Ha

Haha, good joke! 95%of the time the man in the relationship gets shafted, no secret.

Tater

8/9/2013 1:43:27 PM
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Everyone's situation is different

My exhusband was a manipulative layabout and a neglectful father, everything was in my name and he couldn't be bothered to get a lawyer. Every expense was on me and he automatically got joint custody of our kids, which he almost never followed through on taking care of them, and out of four years he has paid child support six times. He also got a division of my pension, left the province for months, and tried to convince our thirteen year old daughter to get on a plane to join him there without telling me!  
Women who get divorced don't conform to bloodsucking leech any more than men who get divorced are all deadbeats who would rather live off their girlfriend than pay child support. I guess I'm in the 5%? Lucky me, time to play the lottery.

Light & Love, Rise Above

8/9/2013 11:40:03 PM
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Family Law in Manitoba - 2008 Edition

Under Province of Manitoba. Very informative. Best of luck.

Magnumchief

8/10/2013 1:41:24 AM
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I feel for you

  
heartbroken said "I have been looking for websites and/or help for men going through divorce there is a lot of information out there for women but not a lot for men. any help would be appreciated. "

When I got divorced, it was hands down the worst experience of my life. Even though it was 20 years ago, the scars are fresh. But, I can tell you it is not the end. Take help and encouragement wherever you can get it. Don't write anyone off, and also keep in mind that you are going to get through it. You will have many ups and downs. Many, and just when you think its getting better, something will trigger you and you will crash again. Quite normal. Just know there are people who care, and you are never alone. Find help and comfort wherever you can. You will need it.  
Again, keep on going and never give up. Learn from the experience and use that knowledge to better yourself. Don't beat yourself up, as it took both of you to get to this point. Breathe. Look for new opportunities and grow. There is nowhere to go now but in the right direction. If you need a friend, PM me. Nothing you do is bad except for dwelling on the past. Your life is going to get better! Believe it and live it.

lv87

8/10/2013 4:15:29 AM
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Respect yourself.

Ending any relationship is hard and I'm sorry you have to go through that. Rely on your friends and family. They will help you weather the storm. And don't let hurt or anger get the best of you. Don't steep to the other persons level no matter how tempting. Stand a high ground and know this stage is only temporary and will pass and you will always want to look back at it and know you had no regrets and did things right so you can walk away holding your head high.

harleydavidson

8/10/2013 8:09:08 AM
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just saying

she gets the "gold mine" -you get the "shaft"

Healthy Hugs

8/11/2013 2:58:31 PM
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Divorce Care!!

  
The quiet one said "
  
heartbroken said "I have been looking for websites and/or help for men going through divorce there is a lot of information out there for women but not a lot for men. any help would be appreciated. "

i used this group, not sure if brandon, i used the ones in winnipeg when i lived there for a spell  
 
<:A target="_blank" HREF="http://www.divorcecare.org/">:http://www.divorcecare.org/<:/A>:  
 
Edited by The quiet one, 2013-08-09 10:47:41"

Yes this an excellent program for either men or women - usually offered through a church - but don't let that keep you away - Remember - Following any separation or divorce or long time marriage breakdown - it will take a while to rebuild oneself - the hurt is real and each circumstance is different - so do yourself a favor - make a conscience effort to find a Divorce Care group in Brandon - yes they are offered in Brandon - check Bethel Christian Assembly - I know they offered it a couple years ago for sure - cause I attended - Best thing I could have done for myself!

Healthy Hugs

8/11/2013 3:01:48 PM
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RE quote

  
harleydavidson said "she gets the "gold mine" -you get the "shaft" "

This is so inaccurate - if at all possible keep yourself out of the lawyers and court system - otherwise you are pretty much playing a game of crap shoot! There are many circumstances where your quote is definitely been the reverse - like I said a game of crap shoot!

ScarletAngel

8/12/2013 9:42:52 AM
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Lmao

  
sammygirl459 said "Haha, good joke! 95%of the time the man in the relationship gets shafted, no secret. "

Really? I was the one that got bent over the barrel in mine...  
 
On another note,  
Marriagebuilders.com helped me see the who/what/why's of our failed marriage.

socialmom

9/15/2013 2:44:00 PM
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Jun 2012
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DivorceCare

group did lots for me, I would recommend it highly, whether you have any religious affliation or not....its great to get with others going through the same thing, learning what works and what doesn't for yourself....it also helps to have a different perspective from others on the outside looking in....we can be so wrapped up in our pain sometimes its great to have others give a different view from their own experiences! good luck friend!

socialmom

9/15/2013 5:03:54 PM
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Jun 2012
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DivorceCare

group did lots for me, I would recommend it highly, whether you have any religious affliation or not....its great to get with others going through the same thing, learning what works and what doesn't for yourself....it also helps to have a different perspective from others on the outside looking in....we can be so wrapped up in our pain sometimes its great to have others give a different view from their own experiences! good luck friend!

socialmom

9/15/2013 5:51:21 PM
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Jun 2012
Total posts:213
DivorceCare

group did lots for me, I would recommend it highly, whether you have any religious affliation or not....its great to get with others going through the same thing, learning what works and what doesn't for yourself....it also helps to have a different perspective from others on the outside looking in....we can be so wrapped up in our pain sometimes its great to have others give a different view from their own experiences! good luck friend!

iKaren

9/18/2013 11:20:39 AM
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Nov 2009
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Divorce Group Tuesday evenings

There is a divorce group that meets Tuesday evenings in Brandon. I don't know the name of the group, but I do know that they follow a weekly program in addition to occassionally getting together socially (NOT a dating club). The leader's name is Allison and her email contact is: adone@wcgwave.ca.  
 
I hope this is helpful.

Owl

9/18/2013 5:49:03 PM
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Jun 2011
Total posts:49
Separated/Divorced Support Group

The group is called "Separated/Divorced Support Group" and meets Tuesday evenings from 7-9 pm. This is a healing group for people adjusting to being single or still in the divorce process. It is not a place to meet a new partner. Call 727-2955 for more information.


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