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Darby Hinton

3/21/2012 1:10:32 PM
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What Happened to relationships

Why does there always seem to be so much drama in relationships nowadays. Whatever happened to a normal, healthy, and happy relationship!

Edited by admin, 2012-03-21 13:25:55. Reason: Title

 
 
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IMO

3/21/2012 1:13:14 PM
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IMO

Coming from somebody who has had their fair share of "failed" relationships, I think it boils down to people (myself included) just rushing into things far too quickly before we get the chance to find out as much about our partner as we should. Not only that, people seem to have forgotten how to work on things. Every relationship and every person has faults. But love is about working on them together, as a team. Not giving up.

NA

3/21/2012 1:14:29 PM
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if...

the relationship is not healthy or happy, then it is not really a relationship and should end.

Darby Hinton

3/21/2012 1:16:05 PM
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yes

I totally agree on what love is about ..thats how I have always preceived it..not giving up

Darby Hinton

3/21/2012 1:26:49 PM
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I have

never been the one to put up with a unhealthy unhappy relationship and I agree it should end

Echo

3/21/2012 1:28:05 PM
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hmmmm

I don't know, but I want one!! :D

Darby Hinton

3/21/2012 1:29:11 PM
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me too

mee too

Darby Hinton

3/21/2012 1:37:34 PM
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Im

at the point where i feel that i have exhausted myself in giving everything that I have in my heart and soul..almost ready to give up

Echo

3/21/2012 1:40:01 PM
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Give up?

How can you ever give up on being receptive to the idea of Love?  
 
I couldn't ever just close down like that. Love could be absolutely anywhere and just around the next corner!! :D

donna smith

3/21/2012 1:44:23 PM
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stress

there is far more stres in our lives nowadays..people just don't take the time ti work on their relationships..too many cell phones,video games,and computers to ditract couples..

IMO

3/21/2012 1:44:39 PM
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IMO

You may find it humerous, but this is one of those times I make reference to a TV Show. Yes yes, "How I Met Your Mother".  
 
For those of you are unaware, it's about how the protagonist relates the story to his two children of how he met their mother, 30 years after the fact. Blah, blah, blah. He goes on date after date, meets tons of women, so on and so on, but he doesn't give up. And although a TV show, he eventually meets their mother.  
 
Maybe that is what we need to do. Not give up, keep looking, and eventually, just maybe, that perfect person will find us.

Darby Hinton

3/21/2012 1:44:42 PM
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everyone

says I have such a big heart and im kind and generous and fun to be around but i feel as though I have exhausted myself..but I do know deep inside I wont give up

donna smith

3/21/2012 1:46:56 PM
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its all good

  
Darby Hinton said "says I have such a big heart and im kind and generous and fun to be around but i feel as though I have exhausted myself..but I do know deep inside I wont give up "

you wear your heart on your sleeve!

Darby Hinton

3/21/2012 1:49:56 PM
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yes

Ive been told that I where my heart on my sleeve many many times

Mela

3/21/2012 1:50:22 PM
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.

Chick flicks, that's what happened. Chick flicks have taught us that the often glorified dysfunctional mismatches are the norm and that things will eventually turn around only in reality that is rarely the case.

donna smith

3/21/2012 1:54:11 PM
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oh

and not nearly enough communication..if there is an issue,communicate about it..don't let if fester.. isn't going to resolve itself. mt hney and I communicate all the time and it helps solve all our issues..if you aren't meant to be together then don't give it a second thought.

sammy

3/21/2012 1:54:42 PM
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...

there is no such thing as a normal, happy and healthy relationship. normal means too many different things for so many people. there is no relationship without drama, heartache, troubles, arguements etc. it is how we deal with them that either makes or breaks the relationship. as long as your relationship is normal, happy and healthy for YOU TWO then that is all that matters. then you get to experience the love, compassion, compromise, and happiness that goes along with relationships.  
 
i think ppl are more open about their relationships and the drama and troubles that go along with them. when our parents and grandparents were growing up that was more private and you didnt talk about such things with just anybody...let alone on a public foruum!! that was unheard of! you kept your private life private and dealt with it between the two of you.  
 
there are both good and bad things to this however...

m_j

3/21/2012 2:12:21 PM
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Lazy.

T.v. shows and movies show us that relationships are effortless. No work needs to be put into them, they just happen and end up working out. We live in an age where if something takes effort, we give up on it. Young people aren't as inclined to put effort into things anymore as the young people of past generations.

Darby Hinton

3/21/2012 2:18:01 PM
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im

the type to see if its worth the effort Im putting in 110% at all times why would you want to see your dream partner slip away from your life when you know in your heart that it was meant to be..thats what Love is never giving up on a true thing

Hackeda

3/21/2012 2:59:49 PM
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I don't understand

How do people enter into relationships so quickly? What happened to dating and getting to know the other person before calling it a relationship?  
 
I have to agree with the post about laziness. Relationships don't just happen. They take work but in my opinion, shouldn't be so much work that you're exhausted from it.  
 
Had to laugh at the chick flick comment too. LOL

HeroGuy

3/21/2012 3:02:21 PM
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.....

The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”  
? Bob Marley  
 
He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.  
 
 
Edited by HeroGuy, 2012-03-21 15:07:04

Hackeda

3/21/2012 3:08:28 PM
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OP

One question - if you're giving everything, ask yourself what you're getting back and why you're giving everything.

sammy

3/21/2012 3:14:14 PM
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<:3

  
HeroGuy said "The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”  
? Bob Marley  
 
He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.  
 
 
Edited by HeroGuy, 2012-03-21 15:07:04"

LOVE it!!

Echo

3/21/2012 3:15:12 PM
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Beautiful :D

  
HeroGuy said "The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”  
? Bob Marley  
 
He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.  
 
 
Edited by HeroGuy, 2012-03-21 15:07:04"

Love this

Microsys

3/21/2012 3:16:46 PM
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28 years ago

I met my future wife at a bus stop..missed her bus, so I offered her a ride. (I had noticed her there many times before) We have had a wild ride with 3 kids ,7 homes, 4 businesses and various jobs..trips throughout the western world and africa. ..totally my kind of woman. I fully believe that where you meet/search for your mate will in a large way determine your relationship. If you meet at a church..expect a person of a faith world view, if you meet at a university ..think a world centered on knowledge..if you meet shopping..look in their cart!! ..if you meet at the bar ,,,think party time. If you want a certain outcome in a relationship ..try to define your search parameters. I have a number of friends with hugely successful marriages ...and NONE met in a bar...just saying.

Darby Hinton

3/21/2012 3:34:04 PM
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heroguy

thats amazing I wish everyone could see those words and take them to heart

pm5k

3/21/2012 4:29:35 PM
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it's not relationships

  
Darby Hinton said "Why does there always seem to be so much drama in relationships nowadays. Whatever happened to a normal, healthy, and happy relationship!

Edited by admin, 2012-03-21 13:25:55. Reason: Title"


there's so much more drama in EVERYTHING. If you think about it, we don't really keep anything for more than 3 or 4 years anymore, so why would relationships be any different? Everyone I know who is or was looking to get out of there relationship said the same thing "I just want a change". That's what relationships are now.

Felicia32

3/21/2012 4:56:47 PM
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The grass isn't always greener on the other side!!!

I think to many pick the easy way out! We need to all toughin up and hold on tighter to what we have!

Darby Hinton

3/21/2012 6:26:51 PM
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felicia32

is right so many run when they dont even get the facts straight because its the easy thing to do the world is a tough place to go at it alone...dont give up ..dont let go

WRJN

3/21/2012 8:23:07 PM
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Sep 2011
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...

Ive been looking for so long.. and someday ill find her.

 
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