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11/9/2012 11:15:29 AM
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Depression & Anxiety

I wondered if anyone out there could help me. I have struggled with depression & anxiety to a small degree for most of my life and it was manageable with relaxation techniques but ever since I hit my forties it is out of control. I am at the point where I hardly get anything done every day and every little thing just upsets me or irritates me. From the moment I wake up till I go to bed my heart races and I feel panicked. You can ask anyone and they will say that I am just not the same person anymore. I used to absolutely love being with my kids but now I just want to be left alone. I used to enjoy going out and now I go out once a week and quickly grab some groceries and head back home. I should mention I am a stay-at-home mom. Heaven forbid if I had to actually get ready for work everyday. Has anyone else felt like this? Is there any natural health remedies that can help me with this? I really would like to avoid drugs if at all possible but I really have to do something and I have been avoiding going to the doctor but if there was a natural health practitioner that anyone could recommend I would be willing to give that a try. I do see one that is kind of a family friend but he is baffled because he says I appear like nothing fazes me but he doesn't know the turmoil thats rolling around inside of me. I keep it all in! All suggestions would be welcome! Thank-you!


11/9/2012 11:25:26 AM
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I started by talking with my family doctor who started me on a low dose of pills to start since I'm so young and will up it if needed.

don brown

11/9/2012 11:44:51 AM
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tough spot

Sometimes when life slows down the problems seem to get bigger. There are some things that I find helpful at times, for me I do try and meditate, I try to stay busy, and I have found that exercise outside seems to make one feel better and takes a bit of the edge off. I hope that you have a close friend that you can talk to, someone who is willing to share their feelings as well as listen to you, someone who you can have some fun with, even if it is just the simple things in life. I don't think that I have ever gotten to the point of being wound so tight that I can't get over things and work my way through it, but if you do get to that point there's nothing wrong with seeking medical help.  


11/9/2012 12:11:42 PM
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You are so making the first step

It's so important and give yourself a pat on the back for writing this. So many keep this as a deep dark secret that they go through, afraid of other's judgements. You will notice a difference in your forties...pre menopausal your hormones are changing just like when you were a teen-ager so it can increase those feelings or intensify them. Also at that time in a person's life you could be doing alot of self introspection bringing out more feelings. Some things that people have tried are Valerian root, you can buy it at any store that carries herbs. St John's wort has also been mentioned as a mood booster as well. A naturapath (if that is your choice vs medical treatment) is a great idea rather than flondering about on your own trying things out as it can take up to 3 months with herbal therapy to notice a difference. I am sure that he/she will be able to point you in a direction that you could go. They may also identify other issues that may be contributing. Good luck with your journey, and know that you are never alone...there are groups out there too if you are able to do this...anxiety groups etc. Again...good for you for reaching out..Take care of yourself <3


11/9/2012 12:30:50 PM
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feel for you

I so feel for you. At one time, I could not go out to the bank or to buy a book with out breaking down.  
Seek professional help. I know you don't want to take medication, but a small amount might put you on the right track and you can taper off. I am now to the point of holding down a full time job, with many extra hours. I still do not want to socialize a lot in the evenings or go out to where there will be big crowds, but I am functioning.  
I too am learning techniques to meditate. This was recommended by my psych., so they not only push the pills.  
I certainly hope things get better for you, but you should seek help. You can go to your family doctor and be referred to a psychiatrist or you might just want to tray the Mental Health Services.  
Mental Health Services  
Located in the The Town Centre  
B13 - 800 Rosser Avenue  
Brandon, Manitoba R7A 6N5  
Ph: (204) 578-2400  
Fax: (204) 578-2822  
Director: Lynda Stiles  
You have made that first step, please carry it further.  
Good Luck!

Kitty Price

11/9/2012 1:19:39 PM
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11/9/2012 9:08:50 PM
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There are various teas that are said to help with anxiety/depression. I remember watching Dr. Oz talking about using schizandra berries steeped with hot water for anxiety. David's has a tea with this berry in it.. Organic Earl Grey Oolong..worth a try?  
Supposedly used to lower stress hormones in the blood as well as anti aging properties.  
I myself have just started a medication for the first time (3 days ago) for a mild anxiety.


11/9/2012 9:50:26 PM
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Natural help

I sent you a pm

Kilroy 4295 dash J

11/10/2012 12:42:36 AM
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Depression and anxiety are serious!!

You need to see someone NOW! I would start with your family doctor, and request to see a psychologist, and a psychiatrist. The psychiatrist will be the person to subscribe medication for you, while the psychologist will teach you how to deal with your Depression and Anxiety. See your doctor NOW. Depression and Anxiety can be deadly. I know this because I have been dealing with it for the last three plus years due to PTSD from serving in Afghanistan.  
No one can tell you exactly what method is best other than a professional. What works for one person could very well be useless or even dangerous for another person. PLEASE, start by seeing your Family Doctor.  
I wish you well.  


11/10/2012 5:10:37 AM
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Thank you

Thanks for all your suggestions and advice. I will be seeing a doctor next week and also looking into some natural alternatives also. Just knowing I am not the only one that feels like this also helped a lot. Thanks once again.


11/10/2012 8:06:50 AM
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you will recover

It will be the power of positive thinking.  
#1 rule: Get help from professionals.  
Negative thinking is your enemy.  
All routines are habit forming, that is where you now are.  
AND make those positive routines your new habits.  
Right down to split second decision making.  
You must learn to understand how you think. Everyone becomes depressed.  
Everyone gets panicky. GOOD Health is to snap out of it.  
Take charge of your own thoughts. This problem is yours.  
DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF or anyone else for this. You simply  
have a bad habit that needs to be replaced with a good one.  
YOU own this and it's yours to fix. That will be the secret of your success.


11/10/2012 9:29:32 AM
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Now I am not saying this is your case. But usually the cycle starts about 40. Some women are sooner than others, but hormone levels start to decrease in your 40's.  
This might be something as simple as hormone therapy. Seeing your doctor is the best way to go.


11/10/2012 9:06:27 PM
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herbal solutions

I have had an abnormal amount of stress over the past number of years and my anxiety level has been up as well. My naturopath has me on Gota Kola, 6 pills a day. It is a herb that really helps you relax, it works in about 20 minutes. I order mine in, but I noticed that Cathy's Natural Way has some. I would also recommend Vit B, Calcium, and Magnesium, all good to help you deal with stress and relax. I hope you find something that helps!


11/10/2012 9:39:09 PM
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I am glad to hear that you will be seeing a professional. My suggestion would be to have a complete physical, including blood work, with you doctor. There are other conditions which can mimic or bring on depression.


11/13/2012 12:05:44 PM
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11/13/2012 12:12:42 PM
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When you talk to people you trust, don't keep your feelings all inside...that creates the turmoil! You need to get to the root cause of what is causing your anxiety and the people you trust can help you. Depression is caused by many things, anxiety being one of them. It's like "cause and effect" with anxiety about your feelings or problems being the cause and the effect is depression. There are a lot of great suggestion above.


11/13/2012 1:56:29 PM
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I would suggest going to see your family doctor. Don't just mention the depression and anxiety, but absolutely EVERYTHING that is different. Keep track and jot things down as you notice them. Mention your mood swings (or irritability), tell your doctor you haven't had the same energy, etc. Write it all down. Keep track of your menstrual cycles as well, and let your doctor know if there's anything different. Even if it's something that you don't think "fits", like headaches, weight gain or loss, nausea, anything at all. Write it down and mention it.  
Your depression and anxiety might be a symptom of something else that's off...your thyroid or hormone levels might be out to lunch, etc.  
Definitely talk to your doctor and have him run some tests. You are not alone! Hoping things look up for you soon. And I'd strongly recommend taking some Vitamin D, and B if you aren't on them already. Also, take a walk every day. Walk outside, walk in the mall, walk at the gym, walk on a treadmill. Gets your body moving and some endorphins going. Some days that's the only thing I tell myself I have to do, and by the time I'm done walking I'm ready to try something else. Feel more like yourself soon!


12/12/2012 9:31:01 PM
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depression and anxiety

I have struggled with depression and anxiety for approximately ten years as it was my bodies reaction to an extremely traumatic event. What I find is that stress triggers my D&P. I am going through a particularly stressful period in my life right now and I can be fine in the morning and by the afternoon, I can be in tears. Very frustrating and it feels like it will never end. I am on antidepressants and also an anti-anxiety medication as well.  


12/12/2012 9:42:30 PM
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Well Farmmom

You are SO not alone! I too suffer from depression and anxiety though I am working full time and try very hard to combat it on a daily basis.  
Like you, I hit 40 and it sky rocketed on me!  
I have taken meds... I hate the zombie feeling I get when on them. It's something I am trying to figure out along with you. This time of year is a nightmare for me. Being out in public and trying to shop with all the crowds!!!... brutal!  
I am trying St. John's Wort at the moment. Not sure what the results will be but I'll let you know! I am also noticing that it seems to worsen with my cycle, and I spend a good week feeling like the world is out to get me and so paranoid I can't even describe it!  
I wish you luck. If you want someone to share with in private let me know... I would be willing to email and keep in touch with any info and support you need!  


12/12/2012 10:51:43 PM
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I agree

with PaulyCracker...the part about heart racing and mood swings made me think maybe a hormone test may be in order. It could be something very simple to fix. Don't avoid your Doctor. They may not always be 100% right all the time, but they are very well educated, experienced people and they have taken an oath to help people. Please don't give up on the system, it does work.


12/12/2012 11:34:40 PM
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Sandy said "Here's an article you may find interesting.  

Thanks Sandy. I am keeping your link for the bad days. I am sure we all can use this from time to time. Nice to know we are not alone.

Waitn' for the weekend

12/13/2012 12:06:06 AM
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Know what it is like.

I have suffered from depression more that 1/2 my life and only within the last 5 years has it gotten worse. I love Christmas but I find it hard to enjoy since I don't have any friends. I try and to the sociable thing and go to the company Christmas party but I have a difficulty trying to 'fit in'. I feel that they are only inviting me to their table out of pity. I have done it all, many different antidepressants and even sought out a psychiatrist and counsellors. I just feel hopeless especially when the doctor I went to see said that I would get hurt again and again until I found some friends... and they wonder why I want to end my life. I just feel I should be enjoying this time but I feel left out.... especially now that I was physically hurt (not from abuse) and not able to enjoy many activities. I don't know how I can get up in the morning to go to work.... I think it is because it is the only human interaction I can get. I just wish there were more good days then bad days..... I just feel like I constantly am hitting a brick wall and I am now fully closed in.....


12/13/2012 12:32:19 AM
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I have battled depression for most of my adult life, however the last 6-7 years I finally feel that I have it under control.  
As many have said, seek professional help, get a full physical, and seek counselling these are all good first steps.  
For me personally medications did not work, and I tried them all it was a wild roller coaster there for a while, and I finally realized that I could not solve my issues with meds.  
Counselling was okay, I felt it helped me to reflect on things a little and see the big picture, I went for about six months.  
The main thing i did to gain control, was to get physically fit, I made a commitment to get fit and healthy. Although I did loose some weight, it was never about my weight or how I looked, it was just more a feeling that running or biking or working out gave me. The other thing exercise did for me was to give me some "me" time, to get away from work and family and just enjoy my workout and think about my day.  
Another thing that was a plus for me was to learn to think positively, and learn not to make a big deal out of every little obstacle, part of this involved always answering questions from other in a positive way, such as how is your day? I always say "fantastic" or "awesome" regardless of how it really is going" it puts a little smile on my face and others to have a happy positive answer like that.  
depression is a interesting disease, I went through my younger years without a issue, became successfull in my career, started a great family with my high school sweetheart, life was going great.... And then it happened, and there were some very dark years, but I learned a lot, and I currently am kicking it's ass, my family and friends have been supportive and very helpfull in recognizing how I am doing, and remind me if my mood is slipping a bit, that I need to get to the gym  
I hope you find a solution soon, it's a really tough battle, but it's worth the fight, be strong and take care of yourself and use the resources available to help you  


12/17/2012 9:52:01 AM
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Can you recommend a therapist or councellor in Brandon area

My friend has been struggling for some time with anxiety and i would love to suggest someone to her. Is there a good therapist you could recommend, that deals in anxiety and depression.


12/17/2012 12:29:14 PM
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I have PTSD...

Which includes the same symptoms you are having. Just recently I've had my dog trained as a service dog and has made the world of difference for me. The company is called MSAR and they're out of Winnipeg... They have recently been featured on a W5 episode as well. It's what has worked for me so far and maybe worth looking into:  
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P.S Am willing to meet up with you at a store like Walmart, mall etc to try my dog out to see if this is something of interest to you  
Edited by Gremmy, 2012-12-17 12:38:22


12/17/2012 1:55:23 PM
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David Burns' Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy

My counsellor/therapist recommended this book, which I found at Value Village.  
So far, I have found it helpful.  
Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy by David D. Burns, M.D.  
Hope that helps.  

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