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Wish: for everyone to get along
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This wish has been granted!

my wish is for everyone. i wish that people would stop attacking other people, maybe they wish for a vacation, a romantic night, food to fill the fridge, a crib, clothes, things they need to make it by, maybe a makeover, the point is everyone has a wish and i hope they all get filled, but please please stop jumping on people and saying that they are asking for handouts, maybe they arnt and some situations that you may not know of are pretty tough, filling somoenes wish could change thier year and in cases even change their life, yes their are people asking for hand outs but really who cares, you are the one giving and you can simple chose to or not to. just take into consideration that some people dont have it as easy and they may be doing everything that they can. im not only speaking for my self but a few others i am sure. its a great thing we all have going on here this is a wish list lets not turn it into a shit list.
 
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Comments (51 total)


mumubear
2/11/2011 5:40:38 PM
Member since:
Aug 2009
TOTALLY AGREE
Me And My Wife2/11/2011 5:49:01 PM
Member since:
Jan 2011
i agree thats why i had to remove my wish
Tamara79
2/11/2011 5:51:50 PM
Member since:
Apr 2007
I agree. There are so many negative people on here, judging others. The anonymity offered here makes people feel safe to say incredibly rude, mean, thoughtless things that they would never say to anyone face to face. I hope this wish comes true :)
morethanenough
2/11/2011 6:43:47 PM
Member since:
Sep 2010
yup, agreed. It's my biggest wish right now!
Nate29
2/11/2011 6:49:10 PM
Member since:
Jan 2011
Well said. If people dont have anything nice to say. Dont say it at all. Happy wishing everyone. cause if a person cant wish in this day in age what can a person do. Somtimes that's all a person has.. !!!! Keep it up Brandon.
GoldenP
2/11/2011 7:16:12 PM
Member since:
Sep 2010
I am trying to ignore the negatives. I spent most of today delivering wishes and whether the people really needed them or not doesn't matter... I feel great!!
~High~Voltage~
2/11/2011 7:23:32 PM
Member since:
Jul 2010
i'd like to add in addition to this wish, that if people are truly in need that their wishes are granted, and that people would have the honesty and decency to only ask for things that they really can't do for themselves.
Tara L.
2/11/2011 7:27:37 PM
Member since:
Nov 2010
I think this section should be a "judgement free zone"....save your anger for the rest of the site, if you must....
Doreen Winona Logeot2/11/2011 7:31:46 PM
Member since:
Oct 2008
I fully agree ... I think that originally it was meant that any person, no matter what walk of life, no matter what their financial situation, could make a wish. When we wish on a star, or toss a penny into a wishing well, it is just that ... a wish. I think it was what was intended here originally ... and it gave people a chance to fulfill that wish. We found that people who thought they were financially unable to help often were in fact able to. This has been such a wonderful way to be able to share with others and make some wishes come true. It is so sad to think that someone can take that and make it feel wrong. I think that a person can wish for anything he/she wants too without feeling guilty in any way.
mom of two
2/11/2011 8:06:54 PM
Member since:
Apr 2010
it personally just made me feel shitty cause my main intention was to get formula for my daughter that no one is using and is just going to throw out anyways, and it would help us a lot cause formula is not cheap! and with two kids one income money is tight, i didnt think it would turn into me being acused of asking for a hand out it really sucked
mom of two
2/11/2011 8:08:32 PM
Member since:
Apr 2010
umm...if you are asking for product for free, you are asking for a handout. Which is fine, but just call it what it is.  
 
I would hate to see your babies go hungry because they don't have the proper food/nutrition. But that's part of being a responsible adult and a parent, and I do not believe in unplanned pregnancies.
mom of two
2/11/2011 8:11:13 PM
Member since:
Apr 2010
way to encourage someone who is young and is trying to provide for their children no matter the way! words like that make young people want to give up and feel shitty about them selfs i am not going to name your name but way to go!!! things happen in life and sometimes you have no control and you cant plan everything in your life?? can you cause if you can i would have a lot more for my children right now!!!
mom of two
2/11/2011 8:12:43 PM
Member since:
Apr 2010
sorry that last message was from a certan someone
Oryx
2/12/2011 2:24:25 AM
Member since:
Jul 2005
Hey! Looks like the pm I sent you, wait, it is! I am glad you are caring for your children as best you know how, but wishing for things is not a way to care for two babies! Am I the only one who looks at mom of two's situation realistically? Or am I wayyyy out to lunch by telling it how it is?
Amanda S
2/12/2011 8:26:29 AM
Member since:
Nov 2010
I love the wishes category, I just feel right now that some people are taking advantage of other people's kindness.
Doreen Winona Logeot2/12/2011 8:30:14 AM
Member since:
Oct 2008
Just my opinion but Oryx, it sounds like you are trying to be hurtful rather than helpful. I didn't know there were rules of what a person could wish for.
Oryx
2/12/2011 10:02:39 AM
Member since:
Jul 2005
I respect that Doreen. I am not trying to be hurtful either. As Amanda said, some people are taking advantage of people's kindness. I know that there are users and abusers out there and I am just concerned that some people on here are getting taken for a ride.
Doreen Winona Logeot2/12/2011 10:25:17 AM
Member since:
Oct 2008
I checked "mom of 2"'s other wishes and they don't sound out of reason to me. But to be honest it wouldn't have made any difference to me if they were. There was a time when all I could afford to buy for food was crackers (they were cheaper then :P) ... I really don't feel that I can judge anyone else, nor their wishes. It is up to me to decide who to give what too. Yes, there are going to be some dishonest people out there, but I think we ALL knew that when this thing started.
Pita
2/12/2011 11:21:14 AM
Member since:
Jul 2009
I couldn't agree with you more Doreen! That being said, if someone really has to question the original intent of the wishes thread, or feel the need to bring negativity to it and have problems with specific members then do so in a private message to them. I for the most part hate to see the negativity come to such an amazing concept *mittens* brought to ebrandon.
SKG
2/12/2011 4:23:39 PM
Member since:
Jan 2011
Well said to all who commented on the negativity on this wish site. I think the people who want to hurt others through words and attacking others wishes have nothing better in life to do but stream the wish list and try to make people feel bad about their current situation. Mom of two you did nothing wrong. You didn't wish for the moon; you have a good idea asking for formula because you never know who has what in their closets or cupboards. As the saying always goes - someone's garbage is someone else's treasure. Keep it up Brandon. We all have to do what we can to survive or to help others. That's what this world is missing a lot of - KINDNESS
Momma Cat
2/12/2011 5:47:29 PM
Member since:
Sep 2008
mom of two, I sent you a pm
Your Majesty
2/12/2011 8:01:14 PM
Member since:
Oct 2008
The wish list a great idea and there have been some great wishes posted. I don't think people are purposely looking to be negative. There are a lot of people including my self who will be realistic to posters BECAUSE some people have not exhausted all other options before coming online and wishing for a solution to a problem. Our society has as a whole has a sense of entitlement. Some people have lost the ability to problem solve on their own, they are used to getting help from others. Which is fine to a point. Some people abuse this system of helping and rely on others to solve there problems. This is when people need a reality check. People on Ebrandon need to stop being so supportive of this. If someone is being unreasonable, has not looked at other options they need to be told. We can not encourage this behavior as it just perpetuates this idea of entitlement.
Bubbz
2/12/2011 8:29:00 PM
Member since:
Jun 2010
There are a couple of comments on here that completely reflect the reason why I chose to delete my wishes from this beautiful concept that *mittens* started. I didn't expect my wishes to be fulfilled...I just wanted to put them out into the universe. But, after reading so many negative comments about other peoples' wishes, I chose to remove mine.  
 
I have helped many people with their wishes...not expecting anything in return. I even granted a wish to an old friend that I hadn't seen in years! :) I had problems with my bank card when I went to pick something up for a wisher and when I told her about it, she said it was okay and that I didn't really have to do what I wanted to do. Of course, I ignored her and went directly to the bank first thing the next morning, withdrew some cash, picked up a few things for her (and my 11 year old daughter picked something up for her daughter as well), and dropped them off.  
 
To me, when someone wishes for something, they probably realize that it might not come true. But, it's not up to me or anyone else to judge them or their wishes. Only God can judge them.  
 
I enjoyed helping people out. I loved to see their faces when I was able to give them something they needed or wanted. It made me feel so happy because I was so used to reading all of the negative rhetoric on the typical thread.  
 
It saddens me to see that something so beautiful turned out to be another way for a human being to hurt another human being.  
 
Just my humble opinion.
Valiant
2/12/2011 8:47:42 PM
Member since:
Feb 2011
Any concept like this (ie: "Wishes") needs a balanced approach. On most sites, moderators are assigned to certain areas of the forum, and specific rules govern all members. There are also points-of-concern which are addressed as they arise. This is to keep members within acceptable standards, and also to prevent abuse of the forum avenue. This procedure does not weaken the forum, it strengthens it.
somethingtosay
2/12/2011 9:07:46 PM
Member since:
Jun 2010
mom of two, I know you usually perceive my comments as negative, and I know I've mentioned a few resources you can access to help your situation. Honestly I'm not trying to be negative or hurtful towards you. My concern with your wishes is that they come often and are usually along the lines of food, and formula for your kids. It is very concnerning that you are having to wish for basic needs for your family. I think you need to sit down with a professional and come up with a plan so that you can provide these things for your children without having to "wish" for them. There is help available. PM me if you want more info.
Amanda S
2/12/2011 10:01:09 PM
Member since:
Nov 2010
Valiant, your Majesty and oryx, I completely agree with almost everything that you've all said. I've said plenty of times that coming to brandon and seeing this wish list makes me feel that I truly do live in friendly manitoba, however I know when you say that a wish is a wish and that is it, you're right HOWEVER, unfortunetly this leaves it open for people to take advantage of kind hearted people that really do only want to help others and give. You want to talk about being negative?? why not taking a look and see the repeat wishers, I mean being realistic is exactly what us Kind minded people need to do here and take of the foggy glasses that blind us when we are being taken advantage of. I believe that there are people out there that really do need a break and I feel that this is the best place to come to have it fulfilled, BUT I don't think that this should replace RESPONSIBILITIES, yes you may need food and I will help you out in a time of need, what I will not do is Help you and then two days later see that you are asking for the same thing or More because perhaps you were lucky enough to have a few wishes granted there has to be a limit here or the wish list is going to start turning into other peoples grocery lists. I'd love to think that the people that REALLY need the help are the ones asking for it, I'm losing my faith when I see repeat wishers taking as sad as it may sound " a free ride" It's everyones choice whether they want to be taken advantage of, but next time lets think for a second that if This week they are asking for food and next week they are asking again then how is it they survived before they were lucky enough to have the kind people of brandon opening thier hearts and wallets?
Pita
2/12/2011 10:15:59 PM
Member since:
Jul 2009
A case might be made then for the moderator's as well. If they peronally know someone, and they don't agree with the wishes made...remember they have the power to pull the wishes and comments should they, the moderator, decide that because they have the power, they can.
Ichoosepeace
2/13/2011 12:33:27 PM
Member since:
Jan 2011
Is it really being “taken advantage of” if I willing offer to help. When I offer a gift and the definition I like is “something voluntarily transferred by one person to another without compensation” I do so with no expectation as what the receiver will do with the gift. They may sell it to buy something else, re-gift it, hide it in a closet; once that gift has left my hands, it is no longer mine. I choose to give with an open heart and a belief that it will help, not harm.  
If I have conditions associated with my gift it is no longer a gift but a contractual agreement, and the other party can choose not to be in agreement or negotiate different terms.  
Do I have the right to qualify someone else’s wish, I believe not. If I am concerned that my gift giving will be used in a way that I consider to be illegal or immoral, then I have the responsibility to investigate and if it doesn’t bounce off my beliefs I can change my actions.  
When I attend to the wishes posts, it is my responsibility to know whether or not there are “rules” set up by the forum that I may or may not be following. If I believe that a rule is not being followed whether a rule of the forum or law and I think it may cause harm to others; then I may alert those in the position to investigate and regulate and to the best of my knowledge that would be Adam. I am grateful to those that alert the moderators of possible forum infractions or activities that may cause harm.  
There will always be those that use gifts of good intent to cause harm, whether it is to acquire food so they may support a drug habit with the food money or something as big as financial aid supporting corrupt regimes in order to get food to the starving masses.  
Wishes that other people make can cause me no anguish unless I allow them to. I may not control what is put before me but I always have control in how I respond.  
Wishes made by others that may not be “the way I would have done things” do not usurp my power. If I find that the wishes forum is no longer instrumental for me, I will likely move on to something that is.  
I believe the original post had no strings attached, rather suggested, I and whoever may read it put out a wish big or small and asked to see if I could grant one. I am grateful for the opportunity to grant wishes and the original post. I am also grateful to Adam for all the work he has done and his wisdom regarding the evolution of, and paths which, such forums may take.  

Watergem
2/20/2011 2:27:41 AM
Member since:
Nov 2009
Let's not ruin a good thing with negativity - happens way too often! People can wish for what they want! If you don't agree with their wish for whatever reason, then leave it and move on. Why be negative? We all have a choice to help the ones that touch us.
Michelle Budiwski2/20/2011 9:58:08 AM
Member since:
Apr 2009
My opinion is this - people can wish and ask for whatever they want. If others are willing to grant that wish - it is a personal choice. I know for myself I am very selective of the wishes I have granted and I have that right, just like I have the right to ignore those that I want to as well.  
 
I have a lot of personal opinions about some of the wishes being made, but I keep those thoughts to myself because this is not the place for them to be voiced.
Genevra
2/20/2011 10:39:31 AM
Member since:
Jun 2009
My opinion is this - if parents are spending money on Cigarettes, Booze, Dope, or going out to party, and cannot feed their children - there is a problem. And I for one, would then see their wish as a call for a Handout - cause they are obviously not being Responsible parents, and need to readjust their Spending practices........ That goes for the single mothers, using their children as a Crutch too, thinking that just cause you are a single mother, you are destitute, and need MORE Help than other cohort groups.  
 
And, I do post here what my opinion is, cause this OP requested it. You dont have to agree with me, but I do still have the right to post my Opinion!!! Thank you OP for providing me an opportunity to do so.  
 
(Lastly, I breastfed my sons till they were 22 months old, so lets NOT go into why you have chosen to feed your children fake milk/chemicals.) oooops....am I now off topic???
crazybusy
3/2/2011 10:33:05 AM
Member since:
Jun 2010
The comments about The OP's wishes arent that often...her wishes are disapperaing. I think she is realizing that she had a good run and she might as well keep asking for help instead of trying to do it on her own...Everyone who keeps granted her wishes is ENABLING her.  
 
There are lots of parents out there having a hard time making ends meet but they figure it out...Yes I know the op has two lil ones but she has income from her boyfriend and probably has income for EI. Maybe she should look into appyling for MB Housing if she cant afford her rent, bills and food. Then maybe she could look into assistance and other programs that are available to people that need help...instead of looking for the easy way out...The OP said in her wishes in the beginning that she was a single parent, when in fact she wasnt... her boyfriend was always in the picture.  
 

chocolatebar
3/2/2011 12:46:19 PM
Member since:
Mar 2007
if you can't afford food, you can't afford clothes, then what is a person doing with a computer and paying for the internet? I'm a common sense girl..I once came from NOTHING, and I WORKED my way to where I am now...if you can't afford the basic's, then sell the computer, cancel the internet cause $28 a month can help towards alot of things...I truly believe in helping people, I have alot of extra furnishings that I donate regularly, but to people that legitimately need it...there is birth control, I hear abstinence works well. I believe in the wish list, for people that WORK hard, but get HIT hard...some take it to the selfish extremes...commons sense seems to be lost on a good portion of people in this city these days
mom of two
3/2/2011 9:57:32 PM
Member since:
Apr 2010
True Blue Flutterby... i dont even know what to say but other then the options that we have done it and trust me i am not asking for a hand out i was asking for the formula cans that you get in the mail as a sample rather then throwing them in the garbage let me know, and it even says i would be willing to pay so how about back off my ass, you dont really know what i have done to get my family by but thanks for coming out, never once did i say i was a single mother i stated we are a young couple 19 and 21... i didnt asked to be attacked i didnt take a good run all i did was simply wish for formula (sample cans) and now i am getting shit on for my wishes, and yeah i have deleted some cause this is getting stupid its a wish.... and i dont want to be runned down.. very imature i think.
mom of two
3/2/2011 9:59:26 PM
Member since:
Apr 2010
atlesast i am doing what i can and not letting my baby starve no matter the situation or handing them over to cfs... but thanks
mom of two
3/2/2011 10:42:31 PM
Member since:
Apr 2010
i ask also please stop attackimg people on their wishes
crazybusy
3/2/2011 10:53:48 PM
Member since:
Jun 2010
The $28 you pay for the net could be going towards food for your lil ones or a can of formula.
mum13579
3/3/2011 8:37:55 AM
Member since:
Aug 2009
people situations change, work can be lost.. we dont know what the situation was taht got them there and who are we to judge. like others have said its up to us whether we want to "grant" a wish or not and if you choose not to for whatever reasons why not just keep reading others instead of taking the time to put someone down for their wish. no one knows what a person is going through unless they have been there themselves. you will get a lot further in life with happiness being nice to people. people remember things. yes $28 will pay for a can of formula for a week, but maybe they choose to have the internet over a phone and/or TV cause its cheaper and they need some form of communication with other people when they have young kids. i dont know if thats what they choose either and im not going to ask cause its really none of my business and none of yours either. like i said you choose to grant or not to grant a wish and if you choose not to please not start putting a person down for their wishes!!
mum13579
3/3/2011 8:40:23 AM
Member since:
Aug 2009
and some people just CANT breastfeed for many reasons, i could not breast feed my daughter and i tried my body just did not provide the milk. great for you if you are one the can breast feed but dont judge others on there choices or reasons.
mom of two
3/3/2011 11:21:31 AM
Member since:
Apr 2010
yeah if only i was paying 28 dollars for internet? hmm well i am not..so before you acuse and assume things of people get the facts strait, how does it feel to be attacking someone who is 19 and doing the best i can? bet your living fancy with no worries, must be nice, i dont want to be mean but seriously this is retarted, how old are you? grow up and mature a little? I CANT BELIEVE HOW SMART YOU ALL ARE, YOU ALL SEEM TO KNOW ME AND MY LIFE SOOO WELL ITS AMAZING.....
crazybusy
3/3/2011 12:25:47 PM
Member since:
Jun 2010
We all might be living fancy but you bet our ass that we worked hard to get were we are!
Oryx
3/3/2011 12:29:24 PM
Member since:
Jul 2005
NO, we are not living fancy, we are living comfortable because we planned, saved and busted out butts to enjoy the lifestyle we have. That meant family planning, saving money and doing things the right way in order to get ahead. Don't come down on those of us who have been successful at acheiving OUR goals in life, because believe me there were sacrificies made! It was your choice to have two children by the age of 19, nobody elses.
Milky Whey
3/3/2011 12:36:04 PM
Member since:
Jul 2010
This is starting to get mean. I think everyone should stop. Maybe remove this one to the granted list.
Oryx
3/3/2011 12:41:34 PM
Member since:
Jul 2005
Disagree RC, it's just reality. Nobody is trying to be mean. Besides, it works both ways, those who have do shouldn't critique those who "havent" and the same works in reverse.
crazybusy
3/3/2011 12:58:51 PM
Member since:
Jun 2010
Well put Oryx! I know that I never asked for a handout, not once did I use the fact that I was a single parent or having young kids as an excuse...I worked my ass off to get where I am today! I am sick of people feeling that they are entitiled!
Adam3/3/2011 2:26:34 PM
Member since:
Aug 2008
The intent of the comments section of wishes is for productive and constructive dialogue towards granting wishes that people have made. If you notice a comment of someone tearing down someone else's wish, please report it to me as that is not what the comments are for. If you notice a wish that you feel truly doesn't belong, let me know and I'll look into it... but with this section I lean towards there being a certain natural order to things. If someone demonstrates need, I'd suspect that they're more likely to get help than someone who simply makes a post as if it were a wanted ad. Giving is a completely optional thing and people are capable within their own faculties of deciding when and what to give.  
 
If you are not interested in taking part in the wishes section as it's intended to be used, we have so many other parts of eBrandon for one to spend their time on.
caringmom
3/3/2011 3:25:40 PM
Member since:
Dec 2009
mom of two I completely understand your situation. I had a child I was not expecting when i was younger and it was tough to buy formula and diapers, etc. But i waited several years before bringing another life into a tough situation. I know you cannot do anything about it now. Things happen in life and we all strive to overcome adversities that come our way. We all have a path we are destined to travel and this one is obviously yours. Do with it what you can. But maybe check out social assistance and other places like that so things can be a little easier for you. Do either you or your boyfriend have family that may be able to help you out? I understand what you were asking with the cans of formula and as a parent you would do anything for your children. Have you ever thought of working an at home job. I know your kids are young but you gotta do what you gotta do. Good Luck!
caringmom
3/3/2011 3:29:04 PM
Member since:
Dec 2009
Not judging just giving someone in a tough situation some suggestions on making things a little easier for a family starting out
Doris
3/10/2011 6:03:00 PM
Member since:
Nov 2008
You may also go to Samaratan house its a food bank on rosser and near 6th street.They give out diapers and formula and other things if you ask.It is all confidencial.Everyone Im sure sometime in thier life needed a lending hand I know I have,and it never hurts to ask,so don,t let people judge you.
Doris
3/10/2011 6:24:30 PM
Member since:
Nov 2008
I get so sick and tired of people judging others.We all have needed a lending hand at one time or another Im sure.I worked as a nurse before my car accident yes you know who I m by now.We don,t run our own destiny.I took two years of nursing and my nose in the books more times then I care to recall and yes I did it to have a better education and a career.Three months after my nursing career ended due to the acciddent,a driver went through a red light I was a passenger ehind the driver.We got hit right in the middle of the doors on the drivers side.I had to go threw numerous tests over and over.I,ve exhausted every avenue possible that I could think of with no avail.Sure I,ve been used alot in my life already but I learned from the expericence.If I see someone homeless I offer them a meal or a coffee if I have alittle extra cash in my pocket.I know some people are alcoholics and drug addicks but no fault of thier own either as its a desease.I don,t hand these people money but I don,t shun them either.In my day and age we use to help each other out.I know todays world is alot different and thats a sad fact of life,but no need to be judging others and rude to people you,ve never even met.I agree likes others say on here if you have nothing nice to say then this site is not for you.We will all be judged one day,so lets think about that.
greenergrass
3/11/2011 8:48:05 PM
Member since:
Jan 2009
Im all for being judged!! I know in my heart I do whatever I can to help another person or animal!! I know that my judgement will be good!! Are you sure you know what you are talking about? Lying and deception is a sin in my bible which one are you reading?

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