Abbysmum said "I'm sincerely glad that worked for you. What works for your family doesn't universally work for everyone.
Several of my children are not neurotypical, one has disabilities, and so what works for neurotypical children doesn't always work for us. Being 10 minutes late can actually be an emergency for them. I frequently get calls, texts, and emails from staff about several of my kids because of official behaviour management plans issued by the school and agreed to by me. If everything has to route through the office, that is even more disruptive than the teacher shooting me a quick text. I have children under the care of medical doctors and mental health specialists. It's not a parenting issue - it's a medical one. Communication is extremely important and I'm concerned about how this is a blanket rule.
The rules are also being applied to teachers, and that i:ncludes the teachers in Life Skills. These are kiddos that, on the most part, need one-on-one supervision and/or are medically fragile. The teachers have informed us due to policy, they can no longer carry their cell phones. That means it can be harder to get updates, convey information back and forth, even call for help if required. That is unacceptable. You can say, "oh, well it wasn't like that and we managed just fine" but kids like this were institutionalized until not that long ago. There's a phone right in the classroom with a direct line, but it's often no answer because either no one is around (they are elsewhere in the building), no one is available (because they are with the students) or they simply don't hear the phone because there's so much noise.
Like I said before, I'm a big believer in keeping them out of the classroom except where necessary. I think limits are good - my children have limits at home too. We have a house full of Lego and board games and books and building/crafting materials and dressup clothes and musical instruments and a big backyard. But blanket rules are often not the solution, especially because society has changed so that there is the expectation of everyone having phones and our infrastructure has adjusted accordingly.
It's very frustrating when we say we want one thing, but the environment clearly isn't reflecting that value. "
I agree with primeconvoy, this is a parent issue, which has also translated into wider issues with the systems that supposed to be in place for children with extra support needs.
The life skills suite and EAs within schools are there to provide the supports these children need. An office phone or a phone close by in the life skills suite is more than enough to communicate with parents if needed. This is true for even kids with the most complex of needs. IEP’s, care requirements, etc. are put in place ahead of time and should be followed through at school. This i:ncludes measures in place for unexpected stressful situations like a parent being late for pick up. If a parent or the EAs feel they need to be in constant communication all day long then there are some serious issues with the system that need to be addressed.
I remember one time in high school a child had a serious medical event. No one had cell phones on them back then. The staff had to use the office phone to call an ambulance. This child was in no way harmed by that. A cell phone would have made no difference to the care that child received.
As for a parent being late for pick up or just wanting to text their typical kids to see if they may need to be picked up, etc., that is fully a parenting issue. Cell phones can be used once the child leaves the school, so I’m sure the kids can wait outside after school and communicate with you then.
None of my kids have been allowed cell phones before high school so the K-8 rules don’t affect us at all. My high school kids don’t use their phones in class anyways, so they haven’t complained yet about the new rules. My one daughter started feeling unwell during 3rd period one time. She waited till lunch, texted me and everything was looked after. But really, had it been an emergency, these kids and teachers phones are still in the room, just in a basket at the door or something. There’s literally at least a dozen phones or more anyone can grab if there is that serious of an issue. Anything else can wait.
Edited by Jellybean, 2024-09-07 13:38:08