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What to do when someone visits against covid-19 rules even if you've told them not to? The person is someone from a religious group who live communally and I've dealt with the community a lot through the years. I thought the person who drops in was a friend. This last time I don't know if it was a genuine error or not. She doesn't wear a mask and has told me that they visit other groups. She seems to think that when the rules changed on January 21 that meant it was okay to visit. I would feel quite uncomfortable reporting this. I'm in a high risk age group. I'm feeling rather upset and wanted to share this and also see if anyone has any advice for me.

Just simply tell her you look forward to visiting again when the rules allow it.  
Is she coming to your home uninvited, no call first, etc? Just don’t answer the door if that’s the case.  
 
There are some people who genuinely seem oblivious to the exact rules. Maybe this is the case as she is living in a community that does not have regular access to technology that would allow them to hear regular news reports of the exact rules and the severity of the consequences when people don’t follow them.

Well hopefully she's not an eBrandoner seeing as how your user name is your name. But as far as options you have 2. You can say nothing because you feel uncomfortable or you can report the issue to Manitoba COVID tip line. All the info is at the link below.  
 
https://forms.gov.mb.ca/covid-tip-line/

For your own protection I think it's important that you state upfront that the current health orders indicate that people need to be wearing masks and not visiting with different groups of people. If you are uncomfortable being put in a position of potential exposure you need to express that and ask the unwanted visitor to leave immediately.  
 
It seems there are too many folks that don't feel the pandemic we are experiencing is real or much of a threat. I've been told by others that I'm taking the public health orders too seriously. I have had to tell some that they simply cannot visit, not until I can feel safe and the public health orders change to that effect.

I understand completely where you are coming from. It seems you are somehow connected to this particular community and now you are finding it hard to establish a safe zone for yourself. You can be firm and assertive without being rude. You need to tell her that you are not available for visits period. You need to set a boundary for your own safety. The pandemic is beyond personal feelings anymore. It's about staying alive especially for those of us who are in the high risk age group. I would think her community would be more aware than they seem to be and for sure she should be wearing a mask. If necessary do not answer the door and don't feel guilty either. I've been there and I know how upsetting this can be.

Thank you so much to those that understand. I've been in tears about this and really don't think I could report it. I've told her on at least 3 occasions that we can't visit until this covid situation is over. She doesn't seem to understand. I'm super cautious myself and this situation feels like it's undoing everything. I think what I may do is put a sign on my door that there are no visitors allowed during these health orders. If that doesn't work I'll take the advice of just not answering the door.

please don't cry You have told her 3 times to not visit, that's wrong for her to not respecting your wishes.  
Putting a sign on your door is a good idea. And if you have family who check in on you tell them they are allowed to visit. If she wants to talk to you she can call you on the phone TACYE is right, don't feel guilty for not answering the door. It's your home and you have to do what you feel is right. You aren't being a bad person or a bad friend for standing up for yourself.  
 
Edited by covidsux, 2021-01-26 15:33:22

Don’t answer the door

Thanks again to all who responded. I have made a sign and taped it on my door. In the future and until the risks are over I plan on not answering the door if my visitor still knocks. Airing this problem and reading your responses has made me feel so much better. You are much appreciated.

Put a sign on your door that you do not want any visitors and then if you don’t answer she can read why.

You should probably read more than the first post Brenda....  
 
Glad you got some answers B and don't let it upset you, you are doing nothing wrong by trying to keep you and your family safe.