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We are trying potty training, and are looking for help/pointers. We started out with clothes off days, and when accidents happen, moving our child to the potty and reinforcing that is where to go next time. We have tried giving treats and giving stickers when we move her to the potty and anything else comes out. She still seems nervous about the whole thing. Where we are at now, when we do a pants off day, she shows off her bladder holding skills, and holds in pee for about 5 hours, and then would wet the bed at nap time. She tells me when she needs to go pee, and I put her there, and she continues to hold it and starts fussing. I can't even tickle the pee out of her. I don't want to keep doing this current strategy, it seems like it will indefinitely lead to a UTI. We do this a couple of days, then quit for a few weeks and try again for a few days. Does anyone have any ideas that would make a girl more comfortable going on the potty? Or a total revamp of strategy? Maybe you have had this and found out you were trying too early?

Don't worry so much about praising and stickers. I found that didn't work. My daughter just felt like every bathroom trip was a test that she was failing.  
What worked best for my daughter was going to the bathroom at the same time as me and making it a "no big deal" vibe. It was just routine and what we do...like putting on clean underwear or brushing our teeth.  
I used to get my daughter up when I got up (mostly because she went to daycare when I went to work). We didn't have a little potty, we just had the regular toilet. Because she was so small, we had a sizer ring.  
I used to wake her up and then I would take her with me to the bathroom. I would use the toilet, then I would put her on it after.  
Didn't use diapers or pull-ups at all. But every time I went to the bathroom, I put her on the potty right afterwards. We would chat about whatever while doing our business. But we never chatted about potty stuff because it was too stressful. That was chatter for car rides.  
Never get mad and set up a schedule that includes when waking up, before nap, after nap, before any car ride that is longer than 30 minutes, before going outside in the wintertime (-10° or colder) and before bed.  
Yes, it sounds like a lot of times, but they may not go every time or they may not completely empty their bladder. Biggest one is to offer lots of opportunities. Make a regular schedule; especially before and after sleep because if wetting the bed too often, your child may feel frustrated or that they are failing/letting you down.

I would wait until she is 2-4, if she’s not into it just take a brake. If you can, start a schedule when her diapers need to be changed. Then you will understand when her potty breaks are or have a decent idea of when she goes more regularly. Once you have your schedule down, take her shopping for some frilly undies that she won’t want to mess up. I would try pull ups for the first three days, before bed, wake up and before and after playing. It will happen. Having her go with you every time you go is also good! It will be exciting when she gets to wear her beautiful big girl undies. They like copying mom and time goes so fast! I miss those days! Enjoy while it lasts just don’t feel the pressure to get her to train until she is showing clear signs.

How old is your daughter ?

I have potty training all of my children using the three day method. It’s worked for all of them and I have no problems with accidents or bed wetting.

I always find it so surprising when I get in "mom" groups how the topic of "potty training" ALWAYS turns into more of "parent training". lol I've potty trained 3 kids so far, I've have to clean up ZERO amount of pee off my floors, and MAYBE 2 night time cleanups, no more...My best advice would be to not push it. Keep the "do you need to use the potty" conversation frequent during the day. All kids learn at different stages and their personalities really play a part in it too. I bought underwear probably months prior to it actually being used. I think we as parents often decide when WE want it to be done, but it shouldn't be so. We have a busy enough schedule without having to add more on top that would stress out everyone involved. Relax, talk about it, make it seem fun, let them "try out the potty" and see if they are understanding the concept. All my kids learned on a normal toilet, no other kids potty or kids seats or whatever. No sticker or prizes, I use no bribery in my potty training lol

I have helped potty train 100’s of kids over the years as a provider and my biggest tip is to wait until the child is ready!! Once your child is ready, the training can take as little as 3 days and no accidents.  
 
Children have such little control in their lives when at this age but one major thing they can control is their bladder. If they know you’re stressing about it or want them to do this right now, they will often turn the other way in defiance.  
 
Let them take the lead on this and I promise you, it will be so easy when the time is right!  
 
And if they’re ready before you are, you better hurry up and get ready haha. If you miss the mark when the child decides they want to train, it can take longer later on when you decide your ready. Kids!!! Lol  
 
Good luck

Thanks for the input. My daughter is 2 now. I have been told by some that it's easier at 2 than it is at 3 years old to potty train, and the next one is coming, so we figured we better give it a try. It seems like she is so close and can't quite let go on the potty, and just needs a little nudge to help, but from the sounds of everyone so far, I may just play the waiting game and give it a go in a while. Even when we aren't trying, she is telling us when she needs to go, then refuses to go on the potty and then will go a few minutes later if she has a diaper on. It is like... trying to train a grown up to pee on an electric fence, there is a mental block there.

We tried at 1yr old and we quickly realized it wasn’t going to happen so we just explained to our girl that we will try again later. We then tried at 18 months and she quickly took onto the concept. Now that she is almost there, she has the odd accident if she gets busy. We still use a pull up for nap/bed and will need to tackle that soon. Every child will learn different and do whatever works best for your child. This is a time in his/her life when the child will get a personalized education

We just potty trained our second ( still working on waking up dry but she’s dry all day). With both my kids I “started” gradually, first I would get them comfortable sitting on the toilet( started sitting on it fully clothed), after they were comfortable they would start peeing occasionally, once they started peeing more often and had dry diapers occasionally (showing they had some bladder control) then they changed to underwear during awake hours.  
Kids potty train only when they are ready. My son was potty trained before he was 3 and my daughter is 3.5, we tried earlier with her but she wasn’t ready yet.  
Celebrate when they go in the toilet, don’t ever get mad or punish for not peeing or having accidents. Pooping often takes long to train than peeing.  
I’ve worked in daycare for years and the best advice I can give is consistency and patience. Some may potty train young and then have accidents for years, some may potty train late and never have an accident and others are in between.

Being ready is a big thing, but you’re right - two is a good age.  
For one of my kids, putting them in cloth diapers made them want to potty train at 18 months because modern diapers let kids feel too dry. If they have to sit in cold urine, they can connect the pre- and post- pee sensations.  
I did the three-day method with my other two. On a long weekend when you have nowhere to be, just say “no more diapers” and then don’t backtrack on it. Kids are smart and adaptable.... but they also learn if a parent goes back to what’s “easiest”.

Get the book “oh crap, potty training”. Huge huge game changer. It makes parents realize the lies they tell themselves “my child isn’t ready”, “boys are harder than girls”, etc  
The best thing to do is to read the book, wrap your head around the fact that you have to jump all in as a parent and that you will have accidents. No more diapers. It’s not an option. Kids are smart. If you put a diaper back on them they will know that they can hold the pee until they have a diaper on.  
Seriously get the book and just consistently follow through. The older a child gets, the more they realize they have free will and can make the decision to not use the potty. It’s not an option to not use it. Reinforce that she’s a big girl and big girls use the potty. It’s not “okay” if she has an accident. You don’t have to be mean, but don’t say it’s okay. Just reinforce that pee and poop goes in the potty.  
We just finished potty training our little girl who just turned 2. She resisted at first but once she had her first big pee on the potty and saw how her mom burst into tears with pride and her dad do a dance she was so excited to learn. We don’t teach children how to do anything in one go (eating solids, sitting, walking, etc) but we as parents expect kids to just know what to do with a potty. It takes time and patience. You got this! The fact that you are asking for help means you are a great parent. The ones out there that say their kids trained in a few days are many and their memory might be a bit blurry. Most kids take about 1-2 weeks to train and then a month or so to potentially stop accidents. Consistency, patience, and a good floor cleaner is all you need. Throw out the stickers and rewards, kids can’t make the connection that young.  
Check out the book, you can do it! We are rooting for you