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I am not referring to the money earned by foster parents, though that does play a role in the immorality and corruptness of the system. What I am actually refering to are the high paying jobs associated with this field. Without the high number of kids in care these jobs would not exist.  
 
I am well acquainted with the system and the thoughts I have come from my 10 plus years of being a natural child of foster parents.  
 
Of the hundreds of kids who came to receive care in our foster home less than 5% had experienced actual abuse against them and not even by the parents. The majority were in care due to issues related to poverty, the rest were just random apprehensions, kids that were returned after the system made an "oops", thanks to the family being able to afford a good lawyer.  
 
When you take a poor child form their home, give them a new home in an upscale neighbourhood with video games, their own room and a $100 a month clothing allowance, it's going to appear that the child ìs doing better. It`s going to appear like you `saved a life`. Add on top of that all the juicy details of their past that a counsellor can lure out of them and suddenly you think you`ve saved this child from a life time of horrible torture. The reality is you snatched that child from their reality for your own good feelings. It does not help their relationships, their emotional stabilty, it will not help them avoid drug abuse or to become a good parent themselves. You give them a false hope then send them out into the world at 18 with NOBODY. No solid attachments, no clue of who they are or where they came from.  
 
 
Anyone who has had their children stolen from them, by a stranger or family member goes through the same grief, the child suffers no matter who it is that stole them. What cfs does should be illegal...even if they dont take all the kids, they certainly take more then need to be taken. The evil games they play with these children (and their parents or extended family trying to get them back) carry on for years after the incident...even to the point of keeping the children's children in foster care!  
 
You dont solve abuse issues by inflicting attachment and isolation abuse.  
 
Perhaps you have the legal obligation to report your suspions, but you have a moral obligation to do what's right and fair for that child. Sometimes calling seems right in the moment, but 7 years later when your trying to get a birthday card to that child and are denied, you might be having second thoughts.  
 
I`m sure there have been many happy endings. I`m still in touch with many of my foster sibling and `they turned out allright`. It`s the ones who killed themselves after reaching 18, the ones who are in jail, the ones who seem to have vanished, nobody knows where they are or what happened to them, the ones who are currently fighting to get their own children out of fostercare, these are the reason I speak out the way I do. These were my foster siblings but they were my siblings. It breaks my heart what they and their loved ones had to go through because of an annonymous call!