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Choice Theory - William Glasser
10/8/2010 at 11:30 AM
I am curious to know if anyone has any experiences with "Choice Theory" introduced by William Glasser, in their everyday lives?
This is a form of therapy for the relationships with the valued people in our lives. Based upon 10 axioms which I will briefly outline:
1. The only persons behaviour you can control is your own.
2. All we can give or get from other people is information. How we deal with that information is our or their choice.
3. All long lasting psychological problems are relationship problems.
4. The problem relationship is always part of our present lives.
5. What happened in the past has a lot to do with what we are today, but revisiting this painful past can contribute little or nothing to what we need to do now: improve an important, present relationship.
6. We are driven by five genetic needs: survival, longing, power, freedom and fun.
7. We can satisfy these needs only by satisfying a picture or pictures in our quality worlds. Of all we know, what we choose to put in our quality worlds is most important.
8. All we can do from birth to death is behave. All behavior is total behavior and ios made up of four inseperable components: acting, thinking, feeling, and physiology.
9. All total behavior is designated by verbs, usually infinitives and gerunds, and named by the component that is most reconizable.
10. All total behavior is chosen, but we have direct control over only the acting and thinking components. We can, however, control our feelings and physiology indirectly with how we choose to act and think.
How do you think or feel towards this process? Do you think that following these rules of thumb, it could help any relationships that you are part of?