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I’m sorry this is happening to you. I would be contacting Manitoba human rights and see if they can help you. Make sure you are documenting everything i:nclude your who, what, when, where and how.

Here are two links that may help.  
 
http://www.manitobahumanrights.ca/v1/education-resources/resources/harassment-and-sexual-harassment.html  
 
http://www.manitobahumanrights.ca/v1/complaints/index.html  
 
It will probably take more effort on your part than it should to make things right, but hopefully it will be worth the effort.

Human Rights can take years to deal with. Have you thought of going to the press? Maybe someone at the Brandon Sun would be interested in your story?

Be pretty ballsy for the sun to publish a business name with that kind of accusations without proven.

I knew of people who were bullied and harassed in different ways (including unwanted sexual advances for one of them). In all cases, little to no help came simply because they were not believed. With time some were able to "turn the tables" and made others realize what monsters the accused really are. The use of phones to quietly record conversations and to surround yourself with witnesses is the only solution. gather enough before presenting your complaint to management. One incident won't be enough. It may take months to make a case against the abuse. The last thing you want to do is to constantly, openly complain without anything to back you up. Because your word means nothing. You've become a annoyance and a 'squeaky wheel' in managements opinions. Stop! You're digging yourself into a hole. Let it blow over for a while , act normal and wait for the opportunity to present itself. ...then prove yourself.  
 
Seems crazy to have the aggressors continue their advancements, but that's the way the game is played in real life. This is not grade school or University or social media where the accuser is heard and believed while it's up to the accused to prove their innocents. Evidence is truth in the real world. you know... "innocent until proven guilty" thing comes to mind. So, suck it up, get a thicker skin and prepare yourself for the golden opportunity to happen to burn those buggers.  
 
Just my opinion, I could be wrong.  
 
Edited by snowman5, 2019-06-16 11:29:30

Anytime you are reporting an incident to your supervisor or HR, make sure it is in writing. Make copies for yourself and write every single thing down, time, dates and exactly what transpired. Stay on top of it all.  
 
If something else happens, write another report to your supervisors and HR, make copies for yourself. Keep writing every single thing down. When nothing has been done to change the situation, go to human rights with all that you have documented, again make copies for yourself and note dates etc. You will get there! Best of luck, you will do it!

It happens everyday sadly. But I hate when it’s accusations and not charges and media gets ahold of it.  
 
There’s a chain of command if it doesnt work go to the police and file a complaint. Then if it’s deemed you’re in the right the employer would have less to hold onto if they did fire you. Keep in mind it’s easy to get let go now a days they just have to say you weren’t performing your duties. Sick but true happens a lot.

These things are so difficult as so many things around sexual harassment are subjective and open to interpretation.  
 
I whole heartedly agree with the suggestion that you document every instance and interaction fully. This will be critical in any action moving forward. I would also study the legislation and the role of the labor board to see what actions you should take and who should be contacted.  
 
https://www.gov.mb.ca/labour/labbrd/  
 
I wish you the best of luck, support and strength in dealing with this unpleasant situation.

If you want to talk about this, send me a pm. I did training in this area and would be able to give you some pointers. There are specific processes a HR must follow when a complaint has been filed.

just wondering at your work place do you have a union / if so you would have went to HR your union rep would have been with you to write everything down .

I have dealt with this a few times in a male dominated workplace. I called the coworker on it immediately, loudly and proudly. Stand up and let him have it!  
 
Edited by valia, 2019-06-16 22:01:22

Male co-worker? In my experience it was the females.

Either way make it clear that their advances are unwelcome and will not be tolerated.

I have to laugh when you say this is handled at post secondary schools. It is not. As many others it is all talk but nothing happens. They make get a committee and make recommendations even post a policy statement. But still nothing happens.  
 
I knew one kid who has harassed by a female instructor. Brought to correct dept. nothing done. Eventually talked to President of College. Nothing done. So dropped out.  
 
A couple of years later I read how that female instructor was terminated at that college.