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In the 1950s, the chance that a wedding would ultimately lead to divorce was less than 20 percent, now it is around 50 percent! Busier life-styles today have cost dearly on the homefront. People believe that the busier they are, the better off and happier they will be. I'd say that's a hell of a price to pay when it comes to peace, harmony and happiness in marriages.  
The most convincing explanations for why the divorce rate has climbed so fast is probably because the concept of marriage itself has changed. Years back marriage was built around family connections, economic dependence, survival and legal vows. Today marriage is focused more on pursuing intimacy and companionship.  
Whereas once we looked for a mate who could be reliable partner in the struggle through life, today we look for a best friend or soulmate, who will make us feel emotionally fulfilled. Divorce used to take place when one partner became incapable in some way; nowadays, divorce takes place when we find ourselves  
" falling out of love ".  
It is certain that people's emotions are not the most stable or reliable aspects of human nature, and as a result, modern marriage has become more fragile. Emotion is a wonderful part of human life as it motivates people to get things done and to act on something rather than remain indifferent.  
Inappropriate emotional response, in a relationship, can hurt not only the other person but also the person who has responded inappropriately. Lets say a husband may think that he's helping his wife by commenting on her dress or hair, either when she asks for his thoughts or especially when she hasn't. The wife may react emotionally in a way that surprises her husband, when all he intended was to be helpful. Or vice versa with the wife trying to be helpful. Either way, its like I said, emotions are not stable or reliable.  
Naturally marriage is " not made in heaven ", with everything going perfectly. Its a fact, human nature plays an important role in marriage and we should be aware and try to understand human nature. All husbands and wives have human nature and its important to know its ability to erode what otherwise could be a happy marriage.  
All married couples and those thinking of marrying, should know and understand that the emotional high of love they feel for each other during the wedding ceremony will cool off somewhat as time passes. With a little understanding about how a marriage can work better, the " I dos " that both parties agreed to originally can overcome the " I don'ts " that will surely surface later in the marriage. And this I talk from experience!  
Two short words can make big improvements in any marriage: " I'm sorry ". When a couple disagree on something they think is important to their marriage and family, it's easy to belittle each other's personality or character, or both. This is a tough time for both partners, peace and the harmony they felt is suddenly gone.  
Instead are harsh words said in harsh voices, usually until one of them deceides to no longer engage in such meaningless, destructive venting.  
Peace cannot grow in such a poisoned home, until the moment either one of the couples say I'm sorry.  
Generally husbands and wives don't vent such strong feelings toward one another unless they feel threatened in some way. Maybe their self-worth is being questioned in some way or they feel unrespected. Still, I'm sorry goes a long way.  
Two other words also go a long way, " Thank You ". There are dozens of times throughout a given day that the opportunity arises to say thank you. Do we often oblige out life-long partner with these words? Are we too busy or to preoccupied with our own thoughts or feelings, or maybe we're unknowingly (of course )insensitive to the good deeds done by our mate.  
Too often we take one another for granted, we expect too much or we assume too much of our partners. Say it once and reap the blessings and say it often and " what a union ". Any marriage can be revitalized and strengthened. Choose now to serve one another across the board, and you can have a happier marriage than you ever imagined!  
And besides, its the partners that are supposed to do something for the marriage, by giving, sharing, working, growing and serving each other. Happiness is the by-product of a healthy union! Marriage is not for the childish and irresponsible or those looking for someone to make them happy. Stop, Love and Listen!!