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Looking for different methods for sleep training a 14 month old. (cyring it out method doesn't work - tried it). and how to get them to bed earlier!  
A little history: normal bed time is 830-9pm most days. some days we cannot get her to sleep until 1030 at night - right now she will only fall asleep in my arms, not anyone elses. 1st time mom - how do you get them in bed and sleeping earlier? we do a bed time routine - supper around 6, bath right after and reading books etc. she goes and goes and goes. for sleeping earlier, should she go into the crib and try to fall asleep on her own? we have tried the cry it out method when she wakes up int eh middle of the night, but she will scream for hours.  
now after she is in the crib, occassionally she will wake up around between 3-4am drain a bottle and instantly fall back asleep - back in the crib and out cold until 630-7am. Most nights, she will wake up crying - we dont normally go right in to grab her as sometimes she cries a bit and falls asleep on her own. she has a different cry when she gets all worked up and with this cry, there is no going back to sleep. this happens every night. when we pick her up she will fall back asleep within minutes in our arms. put back in the crib and wakes up crying within minutes or even before we let her go. repeat and repeat until we give in and we end up sitting in the chair with her most of the night. I need suggestions on what to do. as I said, the cry out method does not work as we have tried this.  
So I am looking for suggestions on how to get her to sleep earlier and what to do when she wakes up multiple times a night just to cuddle. I have no problems waking up for the feedings, but I am getting exhausted when she wakes up crying just to fall sleep in my arms and not sleep in her crib.  
day naps - she only naps once after lunch an its for an hour or 1.5 hours.

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We tried this suggestions in this sleep consultant's blog. It solved our baby's sleep issues. Nap times and sleep times were like clockwork after a few days.  
 
I think your child needs to go to bed much sooner. They might be overtired. Its counter intuitive but the more a baby sleeps, the more it will sleep.  
 
Good luck!

You may be missing her sleep window and it's causing her to get over tired. Maybe try earlier supper if possible or make the rest of her routine shorter. I get that it can be hard with working parents. I work till 5:00 and try to be eating shortly before 6. He eats, has a short bath, read a couple books than off to bed before 7:00. Kids at that age, should still be getting at least 14 hours of sleep in a day.  
 
Can't really help with cry it out, we did it with our son quite young and it didn't take long for him to settle on his own. We put him in his crib at bedtime and just let him cry (checking him a couple times), took him an hour the first night and less each night. If you do cry it out you have to be strong and just do it, it won't work if you pick them up over and over.

Check out http://sleepserenity.ca she is awesome! She can make a plan specific to your child.  
 
Also baby sleep 101 on Facebook, she has free Q & A's every Wednesday from 8-9 p.m.  
 
If she goes to sleep in your arms, she's going to need that every time she wakes to go back to sleep. She has to learn to fall asleep on her own-do your night time routine that ends with putting her in her crib, awake. Of course she is going to cry, that's where the "cry it out" comes in! Also if your starting your routine at 6, she should be in her crib well before 7. Consistency is key, and patience is necessary as it can take weeks to accomplish, but the end result is worth it!

I have a 19 month old son that has been sleeping through the night since 3 weeks old, in his own crib, in his own room. He will go to bed at 8pm and sleep right through until 8-8:30 the next morning (lucky I know! Lol) I feel like consistency and routine is key. My son will eat supper, have a bath (we use that Johnsons bedtime bubble bath) and then he can have a bedtime snack, we read a book, and he is in bed by 8. He has 2 of those material books in his crib, so some nights he will quietly look at them and chat for a bit and then he is out cold. I can fully appreciate how difficult the cry it out method is, I hate hearing my child cry, especially when you know you can easily go pick them up. But you have to stick with it at all cost if that is the route you are taking. My son will have an off day now and again, where he has just had a long day and is clearly overtired and fighting it. And as tough as it is we let him cry, because we obviously know how exhausted he is. I would suggest trying that Johnsons bedtime bath if you haven't already, that stuff even makes me sleepy! Lol. I unfortunately don't think there is an easy answer that works for every baby, all the best to you!

I am going to try the cry out method (ferbers) method after researching it. Its going to be super hard but the end result will be worth it. We are so sleep deprived and it would be amazing to have her in bed before 8! I should probably do the same cry out method with her naps as well so she does not get mixed messages

As a mom of 4 I am aware that difference in children. Some kids are done with naps at different stages. I have 4 kids all same parents and same start up to begin with.  
Sometimes limit the naps in the afternoons really worked wake them up get them on the move feed them earlier and keep with a routine. as funny as it sounds I started my bed time routine upon waking up.  
Stick with it you will succeed!  
It takes 3 to 4 weeks consistently to change a behaviour.  
Best luck to your family.  
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Worked perfectly for my kid.

I know how tiring it can be not having your evenings to yourself, but some kids are just night owls. My second napped 4-6pm then was up til 9 or 10. At first I tried to make him nap earlier or keep him up but he was miserable making us all miserable lol Around age 2 he put himself on a 7-7 schedule.  
 
I skipped the crib with both my kids and put them in double beds at 1. It's comfy for me to cuddle them to sleep then if they wake up in the middle of the night I can slip in to comfort them and if I fall asleep with them it's no big deal.  
 
There's too much pressure on doing it the "right" way and its so much more relaxing to do what works best for your family. Good luck.  
 
 
 

I recall those days! We never did use the crib very much for one of our children. He just loved to sleep in our arms or in our bed. We ended up getting a king-sized bed! Later on, we had a small mattress for him beside our bed before moving it to his own room. He wasn't much for naps, either! You will get through this stage, but it may require lots of coffee!