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I have a feeling there is a second side to this story! While hitting someone and abuse is wrong and never justified. Its obvious that you don't respect him to be out for almost 24 hours. You even admitted you hit him too. Self defense I donno, were you drunk and belligerent when you came home? Did you in fact throw the first punch cause you were mad you got locked out. I donno there's a lot of missing details here, but either way you two shouldn't be in a relationship with one another.

Why on earth do you need public opion on this?? What is that possibly going to change? The only thing that could possibly be beneficial at this point is counselling. For yourself for sure; possibly for your partner and for the two of you as a couple as well, but you can't force anyone else into counselling so you need to start with yourself.

Jenn123 said "Is this wrong? Am I not allowed to have friends? I left at 8am, came back at 5am. I didn't cheat, I didn't do anything technically wrong. Does that give the right to lock me out even though I supposedly live her, and beat me up. Well to him he didn't beat me because I wasn't bloody and dead on the floor but I've got some nice bruises. Hmmm. Figure this one out. He doesn't want this on FB so I'm gonna put it on eBrandon too so I can get public opinion. I banged at the door and flicked some switches on the utility box to get attention because it's 5 in the damn morning and no where to go. But apparently that's wrong too. Yes I hit him back but just to defend myself. So...am I wrong or is he wrong or is this just all a big huge blown out of proportion matter. "

IMO, disappearing for 21 hours with no coordination or occasional updates is out of line. I wouldn't do that to my wife, nor would I be happy if she did it to me - it''s not fair to just disappear on your partner.  
 
However, I would never lock my wife out of the house just because wasn't she home when I went to bed, and of course, I would never, EVER hit her.  
 
You guys have some serious issues, issues you aren't going to solve by discussing it on eBrandon.  
 
Start by filing a police report for domestic abuse, and then, if you think the relationship is worth salvaging, get some counselling, both for your relationship, and for his temper. Perhaps your temper too - it doesn't sound like you reacted too well to being locked out.  
 
Edited by pudds, 2017-09-12 14:59:30

Do you have problems with drugs and or alcohol. If you do that would be your problem and things wont change until you get help that.

Probably not posting because she didn't get an answer/sympathy she liked or was hoping for.

curlysister said "Why on earth do you need public opion on this?? What is that possibly going to change? The only thing that could possibly be beneficial at this point is counselling. For yourself for sure; possibly for your partner and for the two of you as a couple as well, but you can't force anyone else into counselling so you need to start with yourself. "

I feel like this is a time where people feel like they get points if they air dirty laundry on a social media/forums and people agree and bash the other person. What a silly way to live. We obviously are only getting one side of the story. If someone were to say this woman was completely justified and he was an awful human it would inflate her ego a tad and she could in turn rub it in his face that he is wrong. He IS wrong for the abuse part....as is she. I would never be ok with staying out all night without saying anything nor would I allow it in return. Respect is earned. I hope to god children aren't involved....what kind of example would that send? You both need to grow up and if this relationship is worth saving you need to truly look at yourself first to acknowledge the part you've played in such a toxic relationship. I do hope this woman isn't in trouble. Perhaps posting what I assume is your real first name on a public forum can be an easy process of elimination for those who know you. Brandon is small enough. I read an article that sounded like a similar situation to what you describe at the same time as this was posted. If it's the same situation then you both were arrested for abuse. Two wrongs don't make a right though I understand you say it was self-defense. It all seems like a very immature relationship and I hope you have enough respect for yourself and each other to either get serious help both individually and as a couple if you choose, or leave. This isn't a relationship.