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I am not 47, but still in my 30s. I can say for me, it’s about being stuck in my ways. I don’t think I could change now to accommodate someone, nor would I ant to... too much energy. Plus I have my kids and career to focus on. That’s me. I am sure other people feel differently, but I am also sure some mirror the same sentiment.

Well I am in that age group and can tell you that people do want to date, at least I can speak for the women, not sure about men. There seems to be a shortage of decent, eligible men in that age bracket, lol. I think the problem is meeting someone.

I'm not in that age bracket (coming fast though), but to totally be honest I don't think I'd ever find another person to date. My expectations are so incredibly high I don't think there are too many men out there that would be able to match up to them. I've been screwed over so many times I have to have high expectations, in fact I don't think there has been 1 person who hasn't been genuine in their actions. So no, I don't think I would date again. I've wrapped it up to just a bad experience all around and I'll leave it to others

I don’t think you’re too old! Unless you’re on some sort of online dating app I imagine it might be very hard to meet someone. Meeting people online isn’t ideal but it’s just a sign of our times where it’s so difficult to meet people organically anymore. I’m in my 30’s and I find dating extremely difficult! I have really high standards and am not willing to settle. I’ve even been told that I’m intimidating for being smart, beautiful and having a good career. So if that’s the case I think I might be in trouble And as much as I would love to find an incredible man, I’m happy being by myself! I’ll never settle for a man just so I can say I’m with someone. Never.

I’m single in my early 50s. I don’t date but I am open to talking with people I meet everyday. I try to connect and network building relationships with those like-minded people. It is hard.  
 
So in the meantime I work on me! Develop my interests, try new things. If you are going to meet that right person it will happen. If not then you’ve built yourself a life in which you can be happy and fulfilled.  
 
Just my way of thinking!

Well I’m 37 and have not had much of an issue meeting women have had an issue with the quality of them however. Maybe I’m picky but maybe I have 3 girls I look after as a single dad and have a business to run and rental property to deal with so I have to be picky... brandonblonde when can I take you for a coffee??

I think I am too old.  
Not really interested in dating.  
But it would be nice to meet some new friends to do things I like to do with.

I am a 42 year old female, and I find it very hard to find single men..did the whole online thing with little to no success. But I will say this, my problem is that I don't go out much. lols Guess I need them to come knock on my door..hehehehe

I don't think dating is EVER easy. I'm 57 and find it as difficult as when I was 17/27/37/47/ALWAYS. The simple act of finding someone attracted to you and whom you feel the same way is just about impossible. Good luck, you'll need it.

Shebear said "I met my husband online about 5 years ago and Im 54 soon and he is I believe 7 yrs younger, long wavy hair, taller than me and works construction and he got to know me and despite my weight, he saw me as still pretty and my personality. I met him online, talked to him at least a year online and eventually met him in person. We dont even remember the name of that site to this day lol Neither of us is perfect but I politely set my boundries of what I am looking for not looking for slowly in conversations. There are polite ways to hold your standards/morals, and   dont give up. If its meant to be it will happen. I've dated men my age (5yrs ago and earlier) and bit older and nope, younger works for me lol I noticed alot of men expect a Pamela Anderson with a university degree who will pop out babies and work full time lol Everyone has their 'type' but abit unrealistic as these guys none were Viggo Mortissen lol So why expect something unrealistic guys lol Yes attraction has its place, but its a combo of things espc personality/morals/ethics wise that count the most.     Edited by Shebear, 2018-11-12 11:02:41"

eventually looks change men & women but they will still have the personality & treat you right that matters most.

Giddyup said "Well I am in that age group and can tell you that people do want to date, at least I can speak for the women, not sure about men. There seems to be a shortage of decent, eligible men in that age bracket, lol. I think the problem is meeting someone. "

I am 63 and I find most women aren''t interested in dating at that age but are more or less looking for a travelling companion.... or if they are looking to date, their expectations are far higher than most single men in my age group can offer. I guess that''s why the younger guys are always hitting on them, lol.  
 
The last lady I dated was a bit younger than me and left because of religious differences, or so she said. Imagine my surprise when I saw her profile on POF and no mention of religious beliefs. M-eh.  
 
Edited by Cee Jay 55, 2018-11-12 14:53:39

That’s so sweet

I am also in my 30's, I tried online dating for a few years, seemed to be the same group of men on there over and over. Met and dated a few but none went anywhere, so different in upbringings. I gave up, closed down all my profiles, raised my standards. Worked on me, became a little selfish and when I was happy being alone(built my own house, volunteer a lot, fund raise for causes I care about) someone walked into my life. Literally walked into my office and started telling me about his hopes and dreams, which match up with mine. DO YOU, if no one takes notice at least you are happy in/with your own life.

My grandmother was widowed at 35 years. She met and married her second husband at age 70.  
 
I think that people are out there. It’s hard to meet anyone may be for some they are looking in the wrong places.

There is a travel agent in Brandon that has a 'matching' service to avoid the expensive single suppliment and the terror of dining alone. It's same sex and interest based I think. Some trips are pretty much exclusively singles I have heard. Look around the 400 blk on Rosser.

You have it right! Dating is difficult at any age but especially as we get older. I think the best thing you can do is get out there and enjoy your life. If someone comes along......great! If not, oh well you have a great life. There are many things you can try to help with the dating situation while you are living your best life. Online dating, matchmakers, volunteer, clubs of your interest, anything social.......get there and have fun!!! Doesn’t have to be a date

Must have missed it where I invited you for coffee... or not lol dating is a great thing at any age guys... in any situation! Take it from me it does not get any harder then I have it and I am having fun doing it! I really hope that we don’t loose the human touch...

RichardL said "Must have missed it where I invited you for coffee... or not lol dating is a great thing at any age guys... in any situation! Take it from me it does not get any harder then I have it and I am having fun doing it! I really hope that we don’t loose the human touch... "

Outright invites like this are either ignored or not taken seriously.  
 
When we put ourselves out there like this, people are caught off guard or oblivious since it's not the norm.  
 
Best of luck dude! You deserve it. (Crap I am too old for you.)  
 
Edited by Happy_ Hour, 2018-11-14 07:24:51

brandonblonde said "I don’t think you’re too old! Unless you’re on some sort of online dating app I imagine it might be very hard to meet someone. Meeting people online isn’t ideal but it’s just a sign of our times where it’s so difficult to meet people organically anymore. I’m in my 30’s and I find dating extremely difficult! I have really high standards and am not willing to settle. I’ve even been told that I’m intimidating for being smart, beautiful and having a good career. So if that’s the case I think I might be in trouble And as much as I would love to find an incredible man, I’m happy being by myself! I’ll never settle for a man just so I can say I’m with someone. Never. "

The more you have your life together, the harder it becomes to find a suitable person.  
 
It's textbook probability theory, but there's also the distinction between being picky and being choosy.

What’s is having your life together? I think I have my life together and the only problem I have is that I have some crazy baggage so to speak I notice some people already have the pre set that they will not meet anyone and that makes me sad. Why are you blocking yourself off. Then we have those who complain about not being able to find someone up to par but then completely ignore people who are up to standards. Don’t get me wrong standards are good I have mine too. None the less I’m going to singles night! Sounds fun and I could use some fun my life is incredibly hard lol can’t wait to share my story with someone! Or everyone

RichardL said "What’s is having your life together? I think I have my life together and the only problem I have is that I have some crazy baggage so to speak I notice some people already have the pre set that they will not meet anyone and that makes me sad. Why are you blocking yourself off. Then we have those who complain about not being able to find someone up to par but then completely ignore people who are up to standards. Don’t get me wrong standards are good I have mine too. None the less I’m going to singles night! Sounds fun and I could use some fun my life is incredibly hard lol can’t wait to share my story with someone! Or everyone "

"Having your life together"..... that means something different to everyone.  
 
To me it means you can survive without relying on help from others, although sometimes the help is appreciated.  
 
To a lot of women I have met/chatted with it means having your mortgage paid off, a nice car also paid off, no kids at home, cash in the bank and the ability to travel, lol.  
 
I have been on POF for a while now, off and on: I delete my account when I do start dating someone and have noticed the same women that have been on there for years...... mayhap they expect too much in a guy.