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You've been married for several years and have small children. Middle-upper class family, 'average' marital issues and some counseling, nothing really out of the norm...  
 
Until you find out that your spouse has had a fling.  
 
Now what?  
 
After weeks of mulling it over, it's best that your spouse find somewhere else to stay while you get your thoughts and feelings together, put things into perspective and make decisions about what is best for yourself and your children.  
 
How do you ever get over something like this?  
 
Is it really possible to ever regain that trust and respect?  
 
What about all of the lies and then after it's all come out, "I'm sorry, but..."?  
 
What if you're uncertain about where you want things to end up?  
 
How do you know what is best for everyone involved (yourself and the kids)? Is it possible to feel confident in your decisions?  
 
Thoughts? Insight?  
 
Thank you.  
 
Edited by Must Have Coffee, 2010-02-03 21:39:39