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I was wondering what other people think about the give and take of relationships.  
 
Hypothetical situation: One spouse does everything to maintain a peaceful harmony in the home. (Not to be gender biased, I will use "she" as the individual.)  
 
She wakes up happy every morning only to have her family argue about the little things (things that won't matter in a week). She is the go-between to mediate the issues. She tries hard to make every one happy without expecting anything in return (except for harmony and happiness in the family). She puts up with a lot, including but not limited to an alcoholic spouse who is not happy with his job, who also tries to bring her down in her choice of career. She doesn't fall into the "argument trap" because she knows that the arguments aren't worth it. She lets it slide because it really doesn't bother her. She understands that it's him and not her. Everyone that knows this family knows that she's a good Mom/wife who loves her family, isn't a jealous person, is very giving and caring, willing to help anyone any time. She doesn't drink nor does she use any drugs. She's very secure with herself. She knows what she wants to do with her life. She knows that she CAN make it on her own.  
 
Here's the question: do you think it is fair for one spouse to do all of the emotional giving/supporting? Even if there are children involved?  
 
It would be nice to hear POSITIVE opinions from both men and women who are the "giving spouse". If you want to be negative...start your own thread.  
 
P.S. I look forward to hearing from some of you (Sandy, for example...you always have awesome opinions and a positive outlook on life!!) Thanks everyone!!