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Where do nice people meet nice people?  
 
Friends first seems like a strange thing to ask on POF!  
 
It seems like everyone is looking for a 10 and is forgetting what really matters, what is inside!  
 
Where do real people go to find love?  
 

POF is not worth the time. I'd say 3/4 of the people left on there are serial daters, married, or just looking to hook up. I did two years on that site, met three possibles... One turned out to be married unbeknownst to me till 4 months later, and the other two had three other women at the same time on the go.  
When I did finally meet someone it was the old fashioned way. Through friends ...  

From what I could tell most were what I called pof lifers... On there for one specific person they had made up in their minds.  
I find lots are looking for a certain look... And if you don't fit that look they won't bother replying etc.  
Also Thursday nights were what I called the "pig scramble" nights (it's like the street outside a bar at closing time everyone is looking to take someone home) but pof version everyone is looking to secure a date for the weekend... I wasn't just a "for the weekend" kind of girl.  
I had one guy message me to tell me I'd be perfect if I was a blonde, my response was "when I'm blonde and your no longer bald I'll message you back" (nothing against bald ppl it's just a slam I was making back to him) to me I thought if I'm not what you're looking for why bother messaging in the first place.  
My profile was very elaborate, I put lots of time and effort into finding someone decent but came to realize it wasn't going to happen on a site not many took seriously to begin with. I'd say try a site you have to pay for or like the others have said the old fashion way.  
 
 
 
Edited by 4U2NV:0), 2015-11-27 13:30:16

I know a happy couples who met through POF, but in my experience, there wasn't a lot of quality people on there... and even the few guys I did consider worth my time, we just didn't feel any spark. It's hard to create a connection - either you have it or you don't.  
 
That being said, I know a few couples who saw someone they already knew on POF and were like "Woah, you're single?" and started dating outside of POF. Or some people use it as a way to know who's single and looking when they're out in public - for example, while chilling at a restaurant, they see someone they recognized off POF and felt free to strike up a convo and ask them on a date! It's a true story ;)  
 
Anyway, Moral of the Story, POF can be sleezy at times, but it can be used in more ways than one.

As a guy, I got pretty offended when I found out some female users were prostitutes or, as mentioned above, looking for Mr. Perfect. Ended my account.  
 
That being said, there can be some good come from POF. You just need the patience and sense of humor to deal with the BS. Good luck.  
 
Edited by CommonTater, 2015-11-27 14:23:45

and we now have two beautiful boys and have started a pretty nice life together...but the story of that was essentially a lucky series of events. I was on there for 6 years, granted I was one of the "not to serious about any of it" guys. In hind sight me and my fiancé often share funny stories about some of the tools we met on there...but at least it's real. No reason for "bots" like the other pay sites...over half the time, as a guy, you send a message to someone...they're not real, they're a profile generated by someone paid to create profiles...I was always suspicious and when the huge hack of "Ashley Madison" revealed that almost 60% of female profiles were "fake" I just laughed...

the guys on there looking for a "hook up" , but sure makes it hard for the guys looking for the real thing ! I had a hard time, and never was put as any ladies number 1 ... till i found my gf .... 6 months and going strong, thx POF !!

I'm currently on POF and can relate to what everyone is saying. It's a gong show, or a train wreck...you can't help but watch.  
 
I am very serious about finding someone to share my days with and POF is proving to be comical and disheartening rather than sincere, however, I do believe online dating works.  
 
Dating is one of the hardest things I've ever done. I've been single for six years and have done the "don't try so hard, someone will come along when you're not expecting it", or "do it naturally, you don't need a website".  
 
Both men and women on POF can be a total joke. It doesn't matter what you put in your profile, guys will try and convince me to "do things" I express I'm not interested in. There are a lot of players, fakes, guys who are just looking for a lay, and LOTS of guys who just want you to be one of their harem. It's important to be friends with a potential mate, but I agree that finding friends is usually not what a dating site is about. There definitely has to be a spark and a mutual connection. For me, this has more to do with how a man makes me feel, not necessarily what he looks like.  
 
There are good people on POF...I'm on there and I know I'm a great catch as I'm sure many others are. It's just a matter of weeding thru the "wackos" to find who you're looking for.  
 
Good luck to all you daters out there. It's a cruel world and finding genuine and sincere people can seem impossible. I choose to believe that I will find someone eventually, until then, I just find peace in my solitude and getting to know myself.

Been on there for a bit and it is........interesting. Seems if you don't impress/create that "spark" in two messages women are just done with it.

Met on there 5.5 years ago....haven't killed each other...yet ;)  
 
It's definitely an interesting site. Have a few good stories/relationships from it lol. If I had to do it again, (oh god I hope not...lol) I'd probably choose a site that you pay for though.  
 
Good luck!! Everyone deserves to find someone special

I know quite a few people who have met there husband/wife on POF over the last 5 years, I am not one of those people but I can tell you the majority of females on the site sound exactly the same way you are describing the men.  
 
I've met a few people off POF never had any females tell me they are married though. However I have been "bumped" off for better looking men, and told so directly. No big deal its a dating site and people want to date the person they find most attractive.  
 
With that being said I think the most important thing is don't try to hide how you look, what I mean by this is if you want people to talk to you your going to have to have a public photo, I don't think its fair that I put myself out in the publics eye to be judged only to be sent messages from people who wish to be 100% anonymous.  
 
Second and this will sound shallow but I'm only being realistic, have a picture of your entire person, not just your neck and up. I'm not saying show skin or be half naked, I'm just saying present yourself as a hole because there are a lot of people who have "Fit/Toned" as there body description who are most defiantly not. And the people who do this are not fooling anybody.  
 
Third and probably the most important is if you are making first contact with somebody write something more then "Sup". I know it can be difficult to break the ice with strangers but even in my own person experience being the one to make first contact I find you almost ALWAYS get better results by writing something longer then "Hey" or "Sup".  
 
I just want to clarify that advice is for both Men and Women, not just directed at the Women.  
 
This is also my personal 2cents so take it with a grain of salt.  
 
I've met quite a few nice people on POF but never made it past the 3rd date with any of them, and I'm not looking for just a friend or "FWB". It just has never worked out for one reason or another. People are complicated and you just gotta keep presenting yourself, sort through the crap and you'll meet somebody, it has worked for others and people I know.  
 
Good luck everybody!

If wearing the single and ready to mingle ring, it will let people know that you are single in the real world and that you are approachable. I think it can be a conversation starter. Hey I see your wearing the "Ringle" hows it working for you? Just a suggestion. Look for it on facebook!