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wrinkles , grey hair ,sagging everything it's embarrassing I don't even want to leave my home see anyone it's ugly .

Aging is better than the alternative

It happens to all of us, I am embracing it, aches, wrinkles and all.

that's better

Embrace the change and move forward getting old happens to everyone.

I had money I would embrace the change with surgeries ,braces for my teeth , teeth whitening , turkey wattle be gone . To bad I can't start a Go fund me for all of the above . Sadness

it is what is inside, not outside.

inside is not so lovely either .

say this because you probably have it together .

Sorry for your sadness! Best advice has been given to try and embrace it that what is inside is a lot more appealing to people than the outside. Find something in your life to enjoy that makes you happy then the other things don't feel as bad! I wish you luck with your quest if you choose it!

So sorry to hear of your battle. Those that suggest that you can magically switch off the darkness are ill informed. A person can simply remember times when the darkness was less or absent and decide if they wish to try various ways to return to that state. I might suggest that you depressed state might be correlated to your aging but probably not caused by it.  
 
Edited by JustASoul, 2019-03-05 16:26:11

I’m no doctor, but you may want to talk to one. I could be wrong, but you sound depressed, and they can help you with that.

Many types of different depression.  
 
You should call the Mental Health Center @ 728-2400, talk to a mental health worker.  
 
They are in the Town Center and it is free.

Everybody has to go through all that !! Don’t worry , remember it’s you that can change that! Be strong !

instead of trying to be strong or to dismiss your feelings, can I suggest that you be gentle with yourself. Don't judge, don't get angry or impatient. Just let yourself be. Rest, drink some water. Snuggle under a favorite blanket or in a comfy chair. Stay safe.  
 
If that doesn't help definitely seek out help.

Rubyred, I agree with Spades.  
 
Even just talking can help sometimes. Can I meet you somewhere or take you for coffee tomorrow? I know you don't want to leave your house. I totally understand that feeling. But, sometimes just a simple thing like getting out and/or having a listening ear can make all the difference. Let me know if I can do this for you. I want to do this for you.

Hey, you are beautiful the way God made you including the aging flaws "you think you have". Send me a private msg if you want to talk. I can understand what you are saying. I felt the same way, but learned to embrace it.  
 
...sent with love.

This older age is wonderful. I am semi retired, doing what I want to do, nothing has sagged, the few wrinjles do do not bother me. People I have not seen since high school graduation-almost 40 years ago!-have stopped me on the street, recognizing me right away, so I don't guess I am changing too much with age. I am better off money wise than ever before-no way I would go back to a younger part of my life.  
 
I would suggest medical assessment for yourself-you sound like you are depressed, and help is available for that

Loving all the love on here. So nice to see people reaching out. <3

To tell some one to get over it or to stop feeling sorry for yourself or to be strong or dismiss their feelings as something we all go through is all totally inappropriate. Though I would expected these comment on a social media venue like eBrandon. So it is best to simply ignore them.  
 
For someone struggling in any way related to mental health it is important to validate that persons feelings in the moment without judging them. Be supportive without passing judgement. Make sure they are safe and not intent on harming themselves. Then give them resources like many posts on this thread have.  
 
While our society is beginning to have a better awareness of mental health and it’s importance of our over all well-being, there are still a lot of people with negative views out there. Most likely will always will be.  
 
If you are struggling know that there are resources out there to help you. Not all is lost.  
Take care!!

There is no "mental health centre"!!!  
 
The number to call for mental health services in the Town Centre is 204-578-2400.  
 
Mobile Crisis call 204-725-4411  
 
Please reach out!!

so sorry - I made a mistake!  
 
I don't believe it warranted a !!!  
 
Only trying to help.  
 
I can see by your name how you would correct everything.  
 
(yes, I have had to call there many times, and also made a typo with the phone number)  
 
I am sure a quick search and she would have found it!!!  
 
Good Luck Rubyred - be good to yourself.  
 
Edited by Brenda..., 2019-03-06 19:42:20

My response did deserve a!!!  
It's very frustrating when someone is looking for help/resources to have inaccurate information passed along! This i:ncludes names of places and phone numbers.  
I understand that you are trying to be helpful but please please make sure you are putting accurate information.

yes, ok Mr. Loudmouth!!!  
 
I made a mistake, I actually go there once a week.  
 
(but I checked and did google Mental Health Centre and it did come up with Mental Health Services, as the very first hit, in case Rubyred was little confused with my information)  
 
You have taken this off topic. You could have so nicely just said, Brenda, do you mean this?  
 
Again, I am sorry Rubyred....I hope you get feeling better about everything, and this thread gets back on topic, which was to help you.  
 
I do go to the Mental Health place in the Town Center and their are some very helpful, good people there. They deal with many different issues. I really hope you will give them a call. As I mentioned, it is free.  
 
Edited by Brenda..., 2019-03-07 14:53:38