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I would say you need to work on your self confidence so that strangers’ opinions don’t even matter to you.

Pity them for their shallow view on life and try to put it behind you. Though it's not easy I know

I understand your predicament. I’ve heard it all from people trying to help... ignore what others say, beauty comes from within, be confident, it’s only words, your unique, etc.  
Don’t get me wrong I do believe in all of that but as Miller said it is easier said than done. It took me years to get where I am and be happy. Don’t let time discourage you.  
I thought it would be easier once I graduated high school but that wasn’t the case. I found it even more difficult and people were more rude and mean.  
I won’t say the way I went about overcoming it will work for you or that you gotta try it. I will say that everyday I feel stronger.  
Sticking to the topic I don’t feel comfortable explaining in detail openly as I am still a working progress. I will say that you, or anyone that is going through the same or similar situation, could pm me and We could go from there.  
Take care of yourself first. The rest will follow

Write it out  
Very therapeutic  
Say everything in the letter, then burn it  
 
It’s about them, not you  
 
Also, counselling can help

I know kids can be pretty blunt and rude, but adult strangers are verbally abusing you about your looks?  
Wow! Just ignore them and know you are better than them.

I know its tough. I've been in vaguely similar situations. Our society has become quite judgemental putting looks above all else. I would ignore these type of people, they are the real ugly ones.

however hard to do in the moment, try looking directly at them, smile & say "thank you" !! Pleasantness directed toward mean people throws them off!

blame the ignorant individuals as they don't know any better. We live in a society where we are bombarded through the media, that we have to have a perfect body, skin, and should be physically fit. If your 70 you should look like 40. You need to have perfectly fitting designer cloths in order to maintain a fashion style etc. Not everyone can be a perfect weight, have perfect skin tone or afford to keep up with the latest fashion. You need to first and foremost like and love yourself for what you are and who you are. If you like yourself the comments won't hurt that bad, and are easier to ignore. If you don't really like yourself and rely on the opinions of others to establish your worth, life will not be that enjoyable for you. As one person stated you can use some one liner comments if you wish, and that may throw the individuals off balance - I had a friend who was larger then life and someone referred to her as a pig to which she replied - Thankyou - its nice to see someone acknowledge my personal qualities - persevernce, intelligence and guts. Hang in there - eventually you will meet that special someone.

I would say, I am sorry you are hurting inside and going through something that is obviously out of your control. Hopefully you get the courage to ask for help to work through it rather then take your internal turmoil out on someone else.

Exactly, negative unhappy/unconfident people are going judge not matter what you do. It’s no reflection on you but of them. You can’t control their actions but you can control your reaction and what you think of them (how much you really think you should value their opinion)(you shouldn’t value their garbage opinion at all). Decent human beings don’t look at one attribute as a persons defining character.

I totally agree Music_Lover!! Those people making mean comments are only showing their insecurities. It’s not about you.  
 
You shine on with your own natural beauty that comes from deep inside.

Later in life many of those same people will be the ones replaying their words in their heads, and regreting them. Not that it really helps you now, but many people do come to realize eventually and are embarassed and regretful.

Nasty young just turn into nastier older.  
 
Older nasty ones get more sneaky about how they do it.  
 
Talking behind your back etc.  
 
I have dealt with this forever. Developing your own self confidence and self worth is so important.  
 
And if you have so called friends like this. Drop them out of your life.  
 
When I look back to pictures in my teens and young adult. I think. Man I was pretty. Too much of that crap stuck to me.  
 
There is one comment (don’t use st work). I used to use was look them right in the eye and say “who pissed in your corn flakes today”.  
 
Go for it girl. You are the best. And make the most of what you got and flaunt it.

these nasty individuals don't mellow with age - some get worse. As a senior - one thing I've noticed is that these individuals were either the "bullies" or the so called "cool kids" in school who thought they were above everyone else. If you check these individuals 10-20 or even 30 years later you will find that they have very little wisdom or intelligence and are stuck in a dead end job with no future, in addition to a life they are unsatisfied with. As a result they have a lot of resentment for those that are successful and enjoy life, and find it necessary to bring them down to their level of misery. Having said that - I can assure you there are many, many wonderful people living in this world. You'll find them.