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Hello I'm just wondering the best way to meet new people. I find it very hard being a little bit shy/having a hard time to find things to talk about, being 30 and a none drinker. I am a Male and where I work is just me. My fiance has a few friends at work but I dont have any all my old friends took a different root in life. I find it almost weird and embarrassing just having to come to a site like ebrandon to reach out but I really dont know any other way. ive been like this for years and years, at times it gets very lonely but at others I kind of like it. It would be nice to have my own friends but it would also be nice to have some couple friends aswell. I just feel like most people are into drinking and if you dont drink then what do you do? And alot of people are just drama drama which dont get me wrong everyone has drama and problems, but if its constintaly all the time and they just live for it then that's totaly different. Anyways hopefully someone on here knows lol thanks!

I have the same problem. I don't drink and feel lost in crowds. If you find a way let me know too.

If you like sports, a very good way to meet them is through sports. Summertime is baseball and soccer for me. Fall winter is ball hockey.  
 
I think this January I'll be playing co ed volleyball at the university, also basketball.  
 
Then it seems everywhere I go I see people I've played sports with.

That's a ironic name rum Haha, but ya it's very shitty I know alot of people that have great friends from a long time or even from child hood and sometimes I sit and wounder how that would be.and thanks NHL bro that is a good idea I'm not huge into sports but I should be getting in better shape aswell.you guys both really made me happier I thought no one was even going to answer on here.please keep the ideas comming people!!!

I'm not really into sports. I follow some teams occasionally and very casually. I currently don't play any sports either. With a physically demanding job, it is hard to get into it unless you already like sports to begin with. I agree that it would be a great way to meet more people, and may consider it this summer. RDP my ironic ebrandon name helps ensure I stay anonymous .  
 
Edited by rum, 2020-01-01 20:33:21

Rdp, rum, why not get together over coffee to exchange/ brainstorm people meeting ideas? You already have at least two things in common. You never know...you might find a new friend right there! If you feel uncomfortable going into a new/group situation alone, maybe you can do that together!  
 
Do you have any special interests? Maybe someone here can point you toward a group of like minded people too.  
 
As mentioned, sports is a good idea. Be willing to try more than one to see what suits you best. There is quite a good variety in the city.  
 
As well, ask around about other special interest groups that aren't necessarily sports. You might be surprised what is available and might develop an interest in a new hobby.  
 
Taking up a new activity or hobby can be so rewarding in many ways. I know that I have been surprised at the people that I have met pursuing my hobby and I have been so blessed to meet each one. There are a lot of great people out there to meet if you just make a bit of effort.  
 
There is no shame with asking on here. Step one is done. Now on to step two! Good luck & have fun!

As previously mentioned rdp and rum. You guys should chum it up since you guys both are looking for friendship.  
 
But if your into games. I want that stuff is a great place to hang out.  
 
Sports and their teams as some one mentioned will get you meeting more people.  
 
Volunteer work. It’s rewarding. You meet people. Could create great friendships. I still talk to some one I sandbagged with during the great flood.  
 
I know you guys said you both don’t drink. Neither does my wife. She will come to social functions and just hang out and converse with my friends wives while I have a few tin cans. It always works in my favour cause I always have a DD. So there is always that option of just going and enjoying the atmosphere.

There is a plan to open a dry bar in downtown Brandon. I'm not sure how far along the planning is or if it's open yet.  
The Brandon branch of the Canadian Mental Health Association is the organization behind the initiative.  
 
https://mb.211.ca/agencies/canadian-mental-health-association-westman-region-inc/

As an introvert, I know it’s hard to meet people and stay connected when everyone seems like they already have their set group. Back when I lived in Brandon, I met people through church, through instrumental groups, and playing games (back then it was Guitar Hero, Dungeons and Dragons, and World of Warcraft...)