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How does one get themselves out of a rut?  
Every morning I wake up dreading to go to my desk job, then when I get there it is a long antagonizing and boring day.  
 
Then I go home and spend my evening doing the same thing everyday (go home, workout, watch tv/sit outside until its time to sleep and do it over) I don't have a big enough backyard for any hobbies and the gym/fitness classes aren't for me... I am a self conscious person.  
 
I would go back to school to get out of my desk gob but its not as easy as people make it seem.  
I have no clue what I want to go back to school for and I don't want to drop thousands of dollars on something I am not even going to like doing (but it is kind of hard to know if you will like it or not until you've done it).  
 
Anyone have life guidance.  
 
Edited by WallFlowers, 2015-07-09 08:40:12

There are plenty of places that will hire you without any training/experience/schooling for entry level positions so you can find out if you like it or not.....day cares if you're thinking about teaching, care homes if you're thinking about health care. Also, going back to school isn't really that hard. You can get plenty of bursaries/scholarships/student funding to go. Try a shorter program at ACC before you go taking a 4 year degree at BU without knowing for sure what you want to do.

As a regular rut occupant myself, it can be very frustrating. When you are not in a rut, you clearly understand that change is necessary to break the pattern and that it is never too late to make life changes, small or large. Unfortunately, when you are healthy enough to clearly understand this, you are not in the rut or needing change. When you are in the rut, change seems too daunting.  
 
Change is required when in a rut. Start small and less drastic. Simple things like you diet or what exercising you are doing. Keep increasing the significance of the change until you get out of the rut. Sometimes this is darn near impossible if the rut is deep enough but it is what has to happen.  
 
You msy end up going back to school and changing careers but I probably wouldn't start with that change. However, don't be scared of that change if it is eventually required.  
 
 
 
Edited by CommonTater, 2015-07-09 08:59:37

second what CommonTater has said. I was in the same position, getting a new job helped in ALL aspects of my life. Even if you try changing routine but still include the same tasks that may help get you started with change.

I once took a taxidermy class at ACC in the evenings (looong time ago) they used to have a lot of interesting things to try and it wasn't expensive. Maybe you will find something you really like and it could turn into a career change without giving up your present job. Just a thought.  
 
Edited by silverhoarder, 2015-07-09 09:37:47

What are your hobbies, or, what do you enjoy/what interests do you have?

Reading the series of books called the Secret. They actually have one dedicated to finding a career that your passionate about. But my bet is that after the first book you will be feeling a lot more positive anyway. Its more about finding the power within yourself to be happy and attracting what you want by emitting it. OK that sounds really hookie, but it really works!  
 
And in fact if you want the job book, pm me and I will pass it to you.

After work it is always nice to sit down with a couple of friends and talk about the days happenings. One buddy is Morgan....I think he is a Captain and my other buddy is Daniels.....First name I think is Jack.

Fishin Guy said "After work it is always nice to sit down with a couple of friends and talk about the days happenings. One buddy is Morgan....I think he is a Captain and my other buddy is Daniels.....First name I think is Jack. "

My buds are usually light, sometimes with a touch of lime.

Sounds like you have some free time in the evenings. Try find somewhere to volunteer, great way to meet new, like minded people and helps to get out of the house. When you stay at home all the time, pretty soon it feels like your world is closing in on you.

Even ruts lead somewhere. I know that sort of sounds silly but life has it's ups and downs, and sometimes a person just has to stick it out.

Jaxon said "Reading the series of books called the Secret. They actually have one dedicated to finding a career that your passionate about. But my bet is that after the first book you will be feeling a lot more positive anyway. Its more about finding the power within yourself to be happy and attracting what you want by emitting it. OK that sounds really hookie, but it really works!     And in fact if you want the job book, pm me and I will pass it to you. "

If you have access to Netflix you can search for it there. It will give you something to think about. It's really inspirational when it comes to feeling dark and unsure. Hope that helps and good luck my friend!

Fishin Guy said "After work it is always nice to sit down with a couple of friends and talk about the days happenings. One buddy is Morgan....I think he is a Captain and my other buddy is Daniels.....First name I think is Jack. "

I know those guys!

You mentioned that you work out when you get home. Try going for a walk, I've found that I constantly meet new people when walking the dog.  
I've been hearing about the concerts in Princess Park and think they would be an awesome way to get out of the house and enjoy the summer. I know it's hard to force yourself to go out by yourself, but lots of people in the same boat.  
Also, what about trying the group that meets at the Dock on Saturday nights? They sound like a fun group and might be able to help you with future life choices.  
Lastly, totally agree with volunteering - a great way to forget about yourself and meet awesome people.  
good luck.

Many people can identify with problems like this and moving forward in life. Change can be somewhat frightening and there are many reasons why hobbies, extracurricular activities can not be afforded or arranged. Volunteering can be such an amazing experience, it can be at a place of your choice and most organizations are very flexible and very grateful for the help! Feel free to contact me at my office at 204-725-1232 or connier@mooddisordersmanitoba and maybe you and I can come up with an idea or two. Don't be too hard on yourself and have a great day!