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Love Dettol!  
 
Good luck my friend!

I would add good sense of humor and doesn't lose his/her temper easily. Good luck in your search.

If you're really wanting a partner by Thanksgiving or even Christmas, that might be too much to ask for. Props for knowing what you want, but don't give yourself such tight timeframes. Just live your life and let things happen naturally.

BonjourBrandon said " All I want for thanksgiving is... A woman who is/has… - I’m     Single - Single as I can ever be     Between 25 and 35 - 33     Pretty and smart - Freaking awe(hand)some     Open and honest - Brutally     A college degree at the least - You bet     A full-time job, but got time for fun - Yup     Disease-free - Completely     Values respect over money - Totally     Active and healthy - Anytime fit     Clean and hygiene conscious - Dettol user     Kind, but strong/bold - That’s me     Responsible and rational - Mostly     Is it too much to ask for…???!!! Edited by admin, 2016-09-16 22:40:18. Reason: Title "

Going to be a tough go if you do not change your approach. You need to get a criminal records check and check the family blood line's to see if they are worthy. Good luck

That the OP is eventually going to come on here and tell us that it is a partial joke.. and to get a sense of humor. There is truth in every joke.  
 
You need to stop focusing on getting a relationship and just enjoy yourself, figure out who you are, and get some hobbies. If you think a relationship is going to fill that big void in your life, you will be sadly disappointed. You have to fill that void yourself first. Figure out how to feel capable and worthy on your own, being single.  
 
I think people are tired of hearing how much you want a gf.

You obviously put a lot of work into your career, it sounds like you have a degree and put a lot of value on that.  
 
It also takes a lot of work to be someone that women want to date. We attract who we are. So if you aren't happy with the women you are attracting, you need to work on yourself, just as you worked on your degree. Nothing good comes easy. Be the person you want to date along with all the values that you value. Stand for something. :-)

Join a social club, sports team, volunteer, etc...

Remember to keep an open mind Your perfect person may not fit all of that criteria. Sometimes people come into your life in unexpected times/ways, and you have to be open to letting that happen. My husband is the complete opposite of my "type". We met randomly, had next to nothing in common, but just absolutely clicked. And now we enjoy many of the same things together because we were open to new things that the other person was interested in. Never settle, it's fantastic that you know what you want in a relationship. Just keep an open mind

Are all of your efforts focused online? Get out and meet people! You indicated that you have a job and a degree. Do your coworkers go out after work on a Friday? Do you have any hobbies that involve groups of people (co-ed sports, board games, book clubs, etc)?  
 
My girlfriend came into my life when I wasn't even looking! I had been separated just shy of a year, gone through the grieving of that relationship, and had started getting on with my life: a new relationship wasn't something I was even thinking of looking for. Keeping busy with sports and going out for coffee with co-workers was my way of being social.  
 
One of my co-workers had a friend who she would often invite for coffee with our group. We became friends and one day I realized I liked her...really liked her! Being shy to the point of having anxiety I worked up the nerve to tell her how I felt! Almost five years later we're still together! I still think she's out of my league and pinch myself everyday to see that I'm not dreaming!  
 
Anyway, my point is that I believe people come into our life and sometimes we need to take a chance and just go for it! I wasn't looking for love or in the dating scene! We started out as casual acquaintances! I'm sure you have friends who can introduce you to women who might be a match. And if it's not romantic, well, maybe you just make a new friend! Friends are great to have!  
 
Relax and don't put so much pressure on yourself! Good luck! I hope you find someone as amazing as I did!

If your between 26 and 37.. Roughly decent shape, are up for anything and love the outdoors (hunting, fishing, quadding, camping, sledding, hiking, swimming, Bon fires, walking) and have a vehicle.. Shoot me a message/pm me.. I'd love to chat with you... At the same time, if you don't/can't make time to date, or if high maintanance, anger/controlling issues or just wants a baby daddy, please don't message me.. I'm an extremely nice, caring and loyal guy who just wants to start a new life, be happy and have fun...

don't think even Saint Mother Theresa would be good enough for you two!!!  
 
She didn't have a college degree or a Car......so instead of telling us your outrageous expectations, how about tell these ladies what YOU have to offer THEM

your posts do you know who I think of? Raj on the Big Bang Theory. That guy is so pathetically desperate he scares the women away yet he thinks he is the best thing ever. Watch the show and then work at being not like Raj.

Here's a book suggestion. A friend suggested it, I read it, and followed all of the recommendations. And not long after met the love of my life. If you just 'pretend' to do the things recommended, don't bother, you have to really take it to heart.  
 
'Finding True Love' by Daphne Rose Kingma

A Weathered Heart said "Walk around with expectations (especially high ones) you'll only be disappointed.     Walk around with none, and you'll be pleasantly surprised. "

I agree. And when you walk around be sure to smile. You never know who will see and admire it.

Get out, enjoy life and the city. Be content being you and join paint night, bowling, Saturday meet ups etc and you never know what friendships can come from that and possibly more. Sometimes it's quite hard to understand or see the humour in posts which then make people see them in a different aspect. Just let things flow, if it's meant to happen it will, usually when your trying to hard it gives a different vibe of a person and makes it harder to attract a mate. Good luck, be patient, enjoy life

Thanks everybody for your suggestions.  
 
A bazillion women have said no to me on daily basis but it never hurt me longer than a night. I sleep on it and I'm totally ready to ask another woman out on the next day. However, it really hurts to say no to a woman. Now that almost everyone in (e)Brandon knows I'm looking for a girlfriend, I did get couples of messages, but there's no spark for some reason and I really don't know how to say it. So, I thought of listing out my expectations here which could help me in finding "the right one".  
 
What can I say? The heart wants, what the heart wants

To be honest, for some reason I find your posts funny rather than creepy. But it could be because I am married??? Who knows??  
Any way I hope you find the right person, somebody who you can talk to easily for the rest of your life. That is really important.  
Oh, and soon!  
 
Edited by Deb1, 2016-09-23 22:03:52

If you are asking a bazillion women out a day or constantly asking women out, it implies that you don't really have any specific standards and are probably coming off desperate. Women can smell desperation a mile away. I don't think you want a woman for the right reasons.

A good friend once put it this way  
There are three kinds of men for women:  
1) the chuckers. You know them right away, and don't waste time on them, or at least you shouldn't. They're just so obviously not a matc.  
2) the placeholders. They'll do....for now. If you think about it, you know they're not right, or it will become evident over time.  
3) the keepers. You know them immediately, and you take action.  
 
I don't see why this theory wouldn't hold in reverse. As a woman, it worked for me to cut out a lot of heartache and make sure I was ready and available when my keeper came into my life. It wasn't easy waiting, but it was easier than dealing with placeholders. Probably easier on the men that would have been placeholders too, since they weren't tied up in something that would go nowhere, and could move forward with finding their keeper.  
 
If you hit on every girl with a pulse, daily, and stink of desperation, you'll top out at a placeholder imo.  
 
If you value yourself and get to know yourself and who you are, and value true deep interactions, you'll find a keeper rather than a placeholder. It may take time, and the waiting may hurt, but the long term outcome is worth it.  
 
That's my two cents, anyway.

A pulse would be nice

does keep it legal

If I was the person that ended up dating you, I wouldn't feel special at all. I'd feel like the only person you could get. Dating some guy who asked everyone out in sight and couldn't get a gf. I think you need to take a break from all this. Maybe get some counselling.

Unfortunately I was a placeholder for my whole relationship. I was too dumb too notice right away but it became very obvious after we got married... That's my luck. But that's life too, you lick your wounds and you move on! My problem now is I've been out of the dating game so long, I forgot how to play.. Girls dig @ssholes, and I've been told by girls that I'm too nice... I've also been told that I'm an asshole.. Am I missing something here? The saying "nice guys finish last" holds true..

I am trying to not laugh at your list of criteria .... Finding a partner is magical never when or who you would expect ....