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I agree with Half-Mast. Nice guys still finish last. I remain a nice guy but it gets discouraging to hear women say they are looking for a nice guy, yet when 1 appears right in front of them, we are told we are too nice or get placed in the "friend-zone" never to be considered dating material. 39 y/o single male here.

Nice guys finish last because they expect to win the race by just "being nice."  
 
Women want a man who takes charge, gets things done, has his act together and doesn't put up with nonsense.  
 
Self proclaimed "nice guys" just sit in the sidelines with the old "woe is me" attitude.  
 
So yea - be a nice guy, but also have something compelling to offer another person. Have passions, hobbies - have something in your life that makes you an attractive mate.  
 
Sorry, but just "being a nice guy" will never be an attractive trait.

That was well said. I never thought about it that way when I say I'm looking for a nice guy! D3finstly makes me think differently now

I''m a 32 single man in the same boat it''s hard to find a good women these days it''s all about games it seems  
 
Edited by HeyYou, 2017-04-12 15:49:45

I'll probably get blasted for this but... if you're looking for someone who will value you you, and will treat you right, someone who at least tries to make good choices and be a good person, why not try spending your time where someone like that would be?  
 
This could be by doing volunteering, spending time at a club or organization that does good other things, or something else.  
 
For example I met my wife at church. And I'm not trying to tell people that they need to go to church or anything like that. I'm not at all suggesting that my choices or beliefs have to be your choices or beliefs. But hear me out for a second.  
 
I knew I wanted to find someone who valued the same things I do, and wanted to try to constantly improve themselves. Someone who valued marriage and family and commitment, and for me, I knew that when I do have children I wanted to raise them to love God.  
 
(Please Refrain from attacking faith, again, I'm just saying that these are things that were important to ME).  
 
So for me if those were the things that mattered to me, it made sense that I try and meet someone else who valued those things too. In my situation, church was an obvious option. I met my wife 7 years ago and we we'very been married for over 3 now.  
 
Again my point isn't that you should go to church. I don't try to preach to people. But RATHER, that you should decide on what YOU value, and try to spend time developing yourself in a place that will help you develop your own values. If you meet someone in that place, it doesn't guarantee that they'll be a good person or what you're looking for, but I definitely think it increases the odds in your favor.

I messaged you!

I am 32 and I have not had a date in 15+ years. Yes I said it. I'm afraid as it is because of my body image. I don't know what to do if someone even came up to me. I don't even think I have even been on a "true" date. It embarrassing. I feel like a lower when it comes to that. I think I may need help....

Is not the type of nice guy I am. I treat women with respect and use manners but I don't expect anything. I don't sit on the side lines and wait as I am not waiting for anyone. I have raised 3 kids on my own. I partake in most outdoor hobbies as love the outdoors. I just cant seem to find/keep a woman who doesn't stray to someone who calls her a bitch a may or may not hit her.

I pmed you

I am glad to hear that there is still your kind of nice guy out there, I am a 37 y/o female who has never strayed. Don't see the point. Have an honest conversation and either make it work or don't be selfish, let your other half find someone that will be loyal to them and you be honest with yourself. My experience I have not met your kind of nice guy, Niceguy77. Don't give up someone will appreciate your nice guy.

I pm'd you before, and we text but u said I was "too old" lol.  
 
But now you're older, so its good now! ;)

My confused now lol

It goes both ways and is very frustrating

Still hoping to meet my nice guy...someone who will want to be with me and be proud to say that I'm their gf and mean it. I'm not the kind of woman to stray...never...I'm a 47 year old woman who is ready to date...

Yep it's very tough out there trying to find the one. But they are there somewhere!

I actually found someone and we are dating but the biggest thing is that the nice guy gets ignored and she has admitted that all her old boyfriends and ex treated her like crap and she is not used to being treated right and she is not the first to say that so why do woman keep picking the bad boys and then complain

Hey there, I'm newish to brandon, early 40s and single. I notice quite a few singles post on here, would there be interest in a group meeting up? I like to go out and socialize and a meetup would be a good way to get to know new people. Any interest? And where would be a good place to go?