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You poor thing, that's not late. Don't answer or do and advise you are not interested. I really don't understand why this is so unnerving to you...

Is late to families with young children.  
8pm-9pm  
We are getting ready for bed, you knock my dog freaks.  
 
My dog freaks, my baby is awake and you have one mad mommy.  
 
Just common curtesy. I understand where the op is coming from.

I don't care if you have children or not, 8pm is late. No one should be going around knocking on doors.  
 
If I get phone calls from telemarketers/ survey ppl.. I give them a piece of my mind.

We live on an acreage that is not easy to find. Someone (Jehovah's witnesses? I didn't let them talk long enough to find out) showed up this weekend mid-day and knocked. Dog freaks, wakes baby.  
 
I told them in no uncertain terms to leave, that they were trespassing. And to leave immediately.  
 
Don't know where people like that think they get the right to enter private property to evangelize. In town you've got sidewalks and door bells so it's kind of accessible (but still a pain)...there's no sidewalk here, you can't see our house from the road, and we ripped the doorbell out when we renovated.

Just a tip I learnt in Winnipeg if the Jehovahs are bothering you....find a "I donate blood" sticker or something from Canadian Blood Services, put it by your door and they will not come to your house again.

8pm isn't late to many people, myself included.

I don't care what time of day it is....it is never a good time or is it appropriate to go knock on people's doors and force your religious beliefs on them. This is their home, not a public place. If you feel you need to evangelize, then set up a table in a public place with permission, and let people who are interested come to you.  
I am a Christian, but will never force my beliefs on anyone. It is not my choice what other's believe in.  
 
And I'm sorry, but for most of the world, 8 pm is late. It may not be a late hour in itself, but for most people with children, or working people, this is the end of their day, trying to wind down, etc. It could also be the time when a nurse just got off her 12 hour shift, and does not want people at her door as she gets home and wants to go to bed.

and 8 pm is late. I'm in bed by 9 after working a full day 8-5pm. I would be a little annoyed if someone came to the door trying to force their religious beliefs on me right before bed.

Knucklehead, so you sleep from 9 to ~7? 10 hours a night at 23? Wow.  
 
8 pm is not late. At 8pm kids are in bed and we are getting everything ready for the next day. Bed sometime after 10 on a weekday. Just because the kids are in bed I don't consider it to be late.  
 
For most of the world 8pm is most definitely not late. In Europe it is very common to go for supper around 8pm. Asia everything comes alive after 8pm.  
 
I really don't want to see solicitors at my door at any time of the day though. If I had to put a time that is too late it would be 9pm. I am not going to talk to them anyhow just send them on their way. Just don't answer the door if you don't want to speak to anyone after 8. Turn the lights out they will get the hint.  
 

of any kind, especially if you have young kids who are trying to get to sleep. I don't want anyone knocking on my door at anytime of the day trying to recruit me to their religion. This is my home, you have not been invited. Stay away.

Woody94 said "Knucklehead, so you sleep from 9 to ~7? 10 hours a night at 23? Wow.     8 pm is not late. At 8pm kids are in bed and we are getting everything ready for the next day. Bed sometime after 10 on a weekday. Just because the kids are in bed I don't consider it to be late.     For most of the world 8pm is most definitely not late. In Europe it is very common to go for supper around 8pm. Asia everything comes alive after 8pm.     I really don't want to see solicitors at my door at any time of the day though. If I had to put a time that is too late it would be 9pm. I am not going to talk to them anyhow just send them on their way. Just don't answer the door if you don't want to speak to anyone after 8. Turn the lights out they will get the hint.     "

Yeah, and my household is up and getting ready at 7 am....so I don't consider that very early. I still would be annoyed if someone came to my door at that time. It's just not appropriate.  
It doesn't matter what each persons view of early or late is, there is a social acceptance of when are appropriate times to be knocking on people's doors for anything. 8pm is not appropriate. I would say that anything after 7pm is not appropriate for any kind of door to door soliciting, fundraising, etc. I would say anything before 10 am is also not appropriate, even though for most working people or people with kids 10 am is getting late in the morning, it's still not socially acceptable.

Will 8 pm still seem too late when the sun is still out? Just curious.

8pm isn't late.

8pm is late for some, not for others , I get that. I don't have children, but if i did I wouldn't really appreciate someone at my door at that time either.  
Our doorbell broke in the summer and we haven't fixed it yet and I don't think we will . ;)  
Today with door to door solicitors, I feel kinda intruded upon or something.  
But regardless of the time, religion is a personal choice and shouldn't be rammed down people's throats on the doorstep of their own home, or anywhere else for that matter. We all put our faith in something, even if we aren't at all religious.  
Its good to have and share beliefs if that's what you want, but there is a difference between sharing a belief and forcing it down someone’s throat. I just don't agree with trying to force or persuade people that that particular religion is the 'right one' or the 'true one'.  

8:00 pm is late for us, as we are up at 5:00 a.m. So usually by 8:00 we are sitting around in our P.J.'s relaxing, unless we know someone is coming over. Hell, sometimes I come home from work knowing that I don't have to go out and no one is coming over and throw on the P.J's. I just won't open the door in those instances.

My day starts at 6am. I consider that early. Others that work shift work might consider 6am to be late as they are ending their shift.  
 
What you view as appropriate is your opinion. What you state as socially acceptable again is your opinion. That is fine you are entitled to it. Not everyone is going to agree.  
 
My opinion is different. Furthermore my experience has shown me that most of the world does not consider 8pm late as you previously stated.  
 
 
 
Edited by Woody94, 2016-01-21 11:43:12

Whether or not 8pm is late is completely subjective and the fact of the matter is, many families do wind down by this time. I think in our own homes we should have a reasonable expectation of peace after night-fall and door to door travellers should be respectful of that. That's all the OP is trying to convey and I lean towards that myself.

Yes I agree, while 8pm may not sound late to some, its defiantly pushing it. But as far as I'm concerned there is never a good time for door to door solicitation and it should be against the law. Same goes for telemarketing. If I want to buy something or donate money or attend your church, I will come to you. Don't come to me.

 
 
Edited by Reggie 2, 2016-01-21 12:24:06

8pm isn't overally late especially on Halloween, there's always some trick 0 treaters out. If you don't know the person, just like you do if you have unknown number when you get a phone call, just don't answer it.

"Knucklehead, so you sleep from 9 to ~7? 10 hours a night at 23? Wow.  
 
8 pm is not late. At 8pm kids are in bed and we are getting everything ready for the next day. Bed sometime after 10 on a weekday. Just because the kids are in bed I don't consider it to be late.  
 
For most of the world 8pm is most definitely not late. In Europe it is very common to go for supper around 8pm. Asia everything comes alive after 8pm.  
 
I really don't want to see solicitors at my door at any time of the day though. If I had to put a time that is too late it would be 9pm. I am not going to talk to them anyhow just send them on their way. Just don't answer the door if you don't want to speak to anyone after 8. Turn the lights out they will get the hint."  
 
That's working hours thank you. I did not mention what time I am up at every morning which is 5am.  
 
Before you judge think about what you read.  
 
 
 
Edited by Knucklehead, 2016-01-21 12:36:36

Woody94 said "Knucklehead, so you sleep from 9 to ~7? 10 hours a night at 23? Wow.     8 pm is not late. At 8pm kids are in bed and we are getting everything ready for the next day. Bed sometime after 10 on a weekday. Just because the kids are in bed I don't consider it to be late.     For most of the world 8pm is most definitely not late. In Europe it is very common to go for supper around 8pm. Asia everything comes alive after 8pm.     I really don't want to see solicitors at my door at any time of the day though. If I had to put a time that is too late it would be 9pm. I am not going to talk to them anyhow just send them on their way. Just don't answer the door if you don't want to speak to anyone after 8. Turn the lights out they will get the hint.     "

Well, we live in Canada, not Europe. Even in Canada, the more social life starts after 8pm as well, that does not mean that everyone's households are still awake or ready for social calls at that time of day. I highly doubt that even in Europe, parents are letting their kids socialize after 8pm when they have school the next day.  
 
One person may not think that blasting music at midnight is a problem, but it is not socially acceptable. So if it is not ok to disturb someone with your music at a late hour, why is it ok to invite yourself to ring someones personal doorbell at strange hours? It really is not even so much about the time either, but also that you are disturbing someone in their personal space, and you have no idea what you may be disturbing. You may be waking a sleeping baby, or a shift worker that is sleeping, etc.  
If I have solicitors come to my door, I most often just ignore them and don't answer the door, no matter what time of day it is because I don't think that going door to door is an acceptable thing to do. Schools nowadays often even write a note on their fundraising forms that kids are not to be going door to door, but just collecting from their own family and friends. I think that all door to door soliciting, fundraising, etc. should be banned as another poster said as well.  
 

I think the op meant that 8pm is late for door to door people to be going around. I agree. I never answer the door unless I know who is coming. I certainly wouldn't answer the door after 8/9pm if I didn't know who it was. Partly due to safety but mostly due to the fact that I'm in my pj's haha

I'm fine if a friend calls or stops in after 8 but I go to bed at 9pm. I really wouldn't want someone shoving their religion in my face though right before bed. If I wanted to be religious, I would be already.

As we can all tell, everyone's different. Some think 8pm is late and some don't, some go to bed at 8 or 9pm and some go to bed later. No two people are the same. Don't bash someone because there different than you. This discussion is going nowhere fast.

If 8 pm is OK, is 9 pm OK.  
 
If 9 is not OK, is 8:30 OK..  
 
Seriously, does anyone really believe the people that made the rude comments in this thread would welcome a couple of people into their home at 8pm just to have a religious conversation with them.  
 
Edited by loeog, 2016-01-21 16:28:04

The_Young_Man said "As we can all tell, everyone's different. Some think 8pm is late and some don't, some go to bed at 8 or 9pm and some go to bed later. No two people are the same. Don't bash someone because there different than you. This discussion is going nowhere fast. "

Exactly....we all have different opinions on what time is acceptable for what, so these people going door to door need to take in to consideration the time of day they are ringing people's door bell. Most of the time, you can get a good sense of what is going on in a home as you walk up to it, and you can judge pretty well if your timing is appropriate. Ie. if you see kids toys all over in the yard, chances are there are young kids living there, and 8pm is not a good time to be ringing a doorbell. If you see all the lights on in the house, and can tell that people are still up and about, then 8pm may not be a bad time, if there are no lights on, and since 8pm could be someone's bedtime, maybe not going to the door is a good idea. If you went at 3:00pm, and all lights were off, it's much more likely that just no one is home, and going to the door wouldn't disrupt anyone.  
 
To the poster who asked if 8pm would still be considered late when it's still light out, the answer for our household would be the same. 8pm remains bedtime for our kids, no matter what the daylight says. School still starts the same time everyday, they need their sleep, so bedtime does not change just because it may still be light out.  
 
To the poster who said that a religion "requires" people to go door to door, where did you get this info? I've never heard of a religion requiring this. It is a choice made by these religious groups, it's not a requirement to be a part of the religious group.  
 
To the poster who said that these people are not forcing their beliefs on you, how are they not? They are coming to your private property, and asking to tell you about their religion in hopes of converting you. That is the definition of forcing it on you. If you are in a casual conversation with someone, and their religious beliefs come up, that is fine, if you approach someone yourself and ask about their religion, that is fine. It is forceful to go to someones private property and begin to preach to them. The intent is to convert, and that is not right.

As a person who has a personal relationship with Jesus ,and would identify myself as a Christian I am very dissapointed to see how "religion" can be slandered , and the negative connotation this gives all of us who are Christian.  
It pains me to see the word "Christian" represented so negatively in this discussion . I agree with many of you, I also wouldn't of been thrilled to see ANY solicitor at my door at 8 pm. I also agree a person with character respects the belief system of others and does not "force their religion" . BUT , Kudos to anyone who has the guts to out In this angry , bitter world and boldly promote what ever it is that has made such an impact on their lives that they want to share I with you . One thing I do know though , is being offended is a choice. God Bless

ruby said "As a person who has a personal relationship with Jesus ,and would identify myself as a Christian I am very dissapointed to see how "religion" can be slandered , and the negative connotation this gives all of us who are Christian.   It pains me to see the word "Christian" represented so negatively in this discussion . I agree with many of you, I also wouldn't of been thrilled to see ANY solicitor at my door at 8 pm. I also agree a person with character respects the belief system of others and does not "force their religion" . BUT , Kudos to anyone who has the guts to out In this angry , bitter world and boldly promote what ever it is that has made such an impact on their lives that they want to share I with you . One thing I do know though , is being offended is a choice. God Bless "

People should be respected as individuals, with the right to HAVE beliefs.  
 
That is not the same as respecting the actual beliefs.  
 
 
 
Edited by Torque, 2016-01-22 07:12:36