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So seeing as the world is going digital from start to finish..... where are all the single women in Brandon? Saying hi seems to be a no go anymore as from my experience, all you get is a dirty look.... kinda puts a damper on the whole thing.....

My father always told me to meet men at the grocery store... because obviously they can afford groceries and can probably cook!  
Not sure what your standards are, but people are geared to connect with someone who shares something in common with them. Along with your “hi”, try to point out something you share with the lady.  
Might work, but what do I know... i’ve Never tried hitting on women!

Some of this is what I did and some of it is what I would look for in a person if I was still looking.  
 
Get involved in a group activity or activities that you truly enjoy. Try something new. Make friends with both men & women, young & old. Build friend relationships with no expectations other than that. This is so very important. Don't pursue immediately and have it as your main agenda, as it appears (is) desperate. Just hang out & do fun things that build each other up together. Making & keeping good friends is a first step. One of those people might know someone else that you might like to get to know. It expands your circle and can be very enlightening & enjoyable.  
 
If all else fails, move or travel. This also will expand your circle.  
 
I have no clue who you are, but here are some ideas. Take an honest look at yourself, like you might if you were selling a car or a house. Not just staging (fake), but real improvement. Is there some way you can change to be more attractive? Again, I don't mean in a fake way, but improving yourself as a permanent thing. Make it a personal goal to keep improving & expanding yourself & your interests no matter what.  
 
Lasting self improvement and taking pride in who you are (not being proud...there is a difference), & being happy/content, are attractive. Making a difference in someone's (anyone's) life, even in little ways, with no expectation of repayment is a good self improvement builder, creating generosity & a joy that people can see in you. How do you present to others (do you keep yourself clean & tidy)? What does your body language (posture, etc) say about you & how is your facial expression? Are you self confident (very important), but not overconfident? Are you guarded or open? These are not always bad...but too much of one or the other can come off differently than you might want to present yourself. Do you seem dull (no fun/motivation) or like you have motivation and enjoy life? Are you caring when it comes to others or self absorbed? Are you enjoyable/fun to spend time with according to those you really respect and admire? All things to think about.  
 
Women usually like stability (in various areas including financial...not necessarily rich, just stable), true confidence, honesty, kindness, truly listens and respects them as a person, not an o:bject (although of course it is nice to be admired as a whole), someone who takes care of themselves and makes wise, careful decisions, and often someone who shares interests.  
 
Please do not hit on just anyone, anywhere. The grocery store (as the above poster mentioned), or any store or public venue for that matter, just strikes me as uncomfortable, forced, and possibly creepy. These women have no clue who you are and you do not know them. Get to KNOW women as friends first. The rest should naturally follow.  
 
Refocus & have fun!  
 
Edited by Flutterby, 2019-05-07 09:04:47

I think you have to be honest with yourself, and others, as to what you are looking for. There are multiple motivations for dating so don't mislead yourself or others.  
If you are a social person, I would recommend getting involved in group events or activities.  
If you are less social, I would recommend online dating, again, being as upfront and honest as you can be.  
Self improvement, as noted above, is always a good thing but hopefully that is something everyone strives for whether trying to date or not.  
Best of luck to you and try not to become discouraged as life is too short for that.

It's pretty simple: be good looking. Don't be not good looking. It works amazingly well

ya burnt.  
 
 
 
 
To the poster....I do agree with others. Get some social interaction going through clubs or activities. Either that, or get an adorable puppy.

Hey I’m with the ppl who mentioned getting a puppy...  
Can’t go wrong with a puppy...  
 
Maybe you’ll meet miss right at the dog park... or puppy classes... or maybe out walking her dog this spring/summer/fall.  
 
Plus dogs are always happy and Put you in a good mood no matter whether your single or not... They don’t judge you and are always happy to see you and be with you no matter what your doing... and hey if she doesn’t like animals that says a lot!  
Just sayin!

If only it were that easy.......

Axana has responded to two of your questions, might I suggest checking out the class she’s speaking of ? She’s putting herself out there, may be a great work out partner

Kinda hard to tell who she might be... was there..... no idea

I've never understood how people can get into relationships so easily and I can't even get into one. So I opted for the puppy. She's way better than being disappointed by some guy and she's always happy to see me!

Messaging her on here privately

Might be a touch on the creepy side

She invited you to seek her out during a class and PM'ing here won't be near as creepy as ebrandonites discussing whether you will contact her or not. Give it a shot. She may have no interest but at least you will know. Information, even if negative, is exponentially better than speculation, worry and assumption.

I just moved here !

My problem is that I am single and nice. I think that when a guy is talking to me he is just being a nice human being, so I am a nice human being in return. I am horrible at knowing the difference between kindness and interest. This is of course from my cisgendered heterosexual standpoint.

I am Enigma71 on POF, a 47 year old male, if anyone wants to know more. Won't say more than that here as this is not the place. Cheers

I know a single woman in her 30s, independent, good career, funny, out going, loves to have fun, no baggage, no kids- so no crazy ex!, attractive, own house, kind and loyal to a fault, own car and the list goes on! So how she is single is beyond me, but if you know a single man in his 30s, please message me and we can set them up! Online dating through friends!

It is definitely very difficult to meet great people. I have tried online dating as well and I find it extremely challenging!  
 
I too am an educated woman in her 30’s who has never been married, has no kids and is very independent! I’ve been told I’m attractive, intelligent, warm, caring and I even have a great career! But I find it incredibly difficult to find the same qualities in a man. Even finding people who have similar interests is a challenge. Luckily, I’ve always been happy on my own and if someone incredible were to come along that would be amazing but I believe you should never settle for anything less than what you feel you deserve, otherwise you won’t be happy! If there’s a guy out there for me he’s not on a white stallion. He’s obviously riding a turtle somewhere VERY confused  
 
When it comes to online dating, unfortunately, it seems people want to put in very little effort. And I guess I’m old-fashioned in that sense. If I were to meet someone that I liked I would put in a genuine effort! But a lot of people are always looking for the next best thing ... but what if someone great is standing right in front of you?!

"I too am an educated woman in her 30’s who has never been married, has no kids and is very independent! I’ve been told I’m attractive, intelligent, warm, caring and I even have a great career! " Like the poster I also have a college diploma, but was never able to put it to use. Long story short, I ended up working in a packing plant where I have held a job for 17 years now. That should illustrate that I am stable. The hours I keep (up at 4:30 a.m., home about 12 hours later) mean that I really don't have the energy to volunteer for projects in my off time. Our pension plan is a joke, so I'm pretty much committed to where I am until I die/win the lottery. For women looking for a partner to travel in their senior years, wish I could join you, but it's just not feasible. Point of my rant is just to say that there are people out there that for whatever reason miss the mark of other's dating criteria through no fault of their own.

Could you post the age/make/service history of the vehicle, and possibly the assessment price/neighbourhood of the domicile? It might take some coaxing to bring the MGTOW brothers out of the woodwork.

I think that problem with dating is that people don't include God in their relationships anymore. Couples who pray together stay together. I guarantee that if the person God wants you to be with is also approaching dating with an open heart to God's will, you will find that person.  
 
Pray, pray, pray. God will take care of the rest. You could be on your couch 24/7 and the person that's meant for you will be led to you. I pray every day for my partner and I/m comforted knowing that despite my age, lack of wealth, past mistakes, and imperfect mortal body, my chosen one is coming to me.

That'a rather single minded view of the world. In essence, you're saying that Agnostics/Atheists/Hindus/Buddhists/Muslims/etc. have no hope of finding love?

You need to realize that everyone has different beliefs dude.  
 
Edited by Happy_ Hour, 2019-05-14 21:17:21

Be the kind of person you want to attract.... and love yourself first.

The real reality is that unless you are at least a 7 out of 10 in the looks department, you likely need some serious luck on your side. That is not me being overly critical of people, it is simply the truth about the strength of first impressions. Others can chime in as to whether they think there is a gender component to this as I can only speak for my experiences from the perspective of a male.

Did you read my post? Never once did I say that less attractive people don't date or can't find love. I stated it takes more luck. Or, it is easier to date if you are more attractive. Do you dispute this?  
 
In addition, why would you say being nice does not count as everyone can and should be nice? I think being nice should count a great deal as not everyone does what they can and should do.  
 
I am simply trying to be realistic instead of theoretical.

Stand with what you have but make sure that its the right thing.i believe you are one of a kind.

Tri me. I fullfill all the criterea

You cover all the criteria for what?