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ok so here it goes...i have been living in the same place for 4 years, and during that time my good friend comes over periodically to sleep with my roommate, she always comes over and drops everything to see him when in return he has never been to her place or does anything with her in public. It like all she is is a "friend with benefits" and it really bothers me when she is over because its like she is smothering me when she's over, i need my space but how do you say it? when i come home from work i just want to chill and not have to pretend i like the situation or try and think or things to talk about. i honestly think she is setting herself up for a heart break cause 4 years is a long time to run after someone don't you think? it would be different if they did relationship stuff together but i don't understand why anyone would just drop everything for someone that seems like they have no other interest in doing anything out in public like couples do. the main thing that i am really annoyed about is that she always comes over and he doesn't go to her...i have tried to say something about it before but it's a hard subject to bring up between your friend and roommate. if he really actually likes her that's great! but it sure doesn't seem like it especially when he doesn't pull his weight and go to her place. to get away from the situation i would like to move, ideally i don't want to cause i like the place i am in but this is really stressing me out and i don't know what to do? any suggestions?