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I met a man in 2012 took me a while then got hooked on him. He was great then a year later a situation happened that hurt me so we did not see each other for few months then I let go all behind, forgave all, and try makes things better and not let things go wrong between us so we started again, it was good again for about a year. I do not need explain the whole story as it will be hard and be too long for those over 2 years to write in here but anyway 2 months ago an issue came up that got me upset in which his lack of communication did not help so I did something that end up hurting him.  
I know there are lots of fish in the sea. He is a simple guy but since 2012 he is the only fish I see in the water. No one compares to him, he tops all. I could do anything for him and give him all he wants I just seem keep loving him, I can give up my new house and live in a doggy shack house for him. I forgave him but he doesn't seem good at forgiving.  
Is love so crazy and confusing that makes people do or say things or act stupid for someone...good way or bad way??? Does love make you a prisoner?

I'm not sure if you are looking for an answer, or someone to continue to ask for more information - however, I've opted to give you information to help you. This may not be what you had intended but its worth a shot.  
 
Read this  
An article called titled: How to Get Rid of an Obsession of Love  
 
http://www.livestrong.com/article/190749-how-to-get-rid-of-an-obsession-of-love/  
 
Then, perhaps read this if you care to an article titled The Difference Between True Love and Unhealthy Obsession:  
 
http://www.anewmode.com/dating-relationships/the-difference-between-true-love-and-unhealthy-obsession/  
 
Afterwards, check out an article about codependency and obsession/addictions related to relationships at http://www.whatiscodependency.com/obsessions-codependency-love-addiction/  
 
Then, if after these you continue to search for more information and cannot find what you are looking for, look for help with a trained professional or counselor who can help you with moving forward if you feel/think you require this.  
 
It can happen to anyone, and if it has been this long - perhaps even looking into purchasing a book related to "The Art of Letting Go" or other self-help books related to relationships which can be borrowed from the library could also benefit you.  
 
Good luck.

Does love make you a prisoner?........yes.

You need to love yourself first, so that when you choose another, it is not out of need, but indeed a choice. That which you describe, is not love, it is your own craving for love. Spend some time with yourself and some good friends. Find a good therapist if you feel the need, or read some self help on love. Heal and love will find you

Take your Love Life and put it up on a shelf for a moment. Put it on Pause. Give it a time-out. Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and put that little lover and any other lovers up on that imaginary shelf.  
 
And while you're putting that Love Life up on that shelf, bring yourself (your own wants and needs) down off that shelf. Give yourself a pat on the back, and an eskimo kiss, and focus on You for a while. Ask yourself, "What should we do now?" Figure out what really makes you happy, outside of your Love Life. Find out what ELSE you want in your life. What OTHER goals you might have. There must be something.  
 
I know this works, because I've done it. I have found happiness in gardening, reading, photography, music, excerise, and travelling. I have taken on part-time jobs and volunteering opportunities that have given me much so happiness. I have become empowered to make decisions for myself instead of for my Love Life.  
 
There will always be more lovers... I have been quite surprised by the number of people who have shown interest in me actually. And yet with every failed date (there have been many) I have found myself feeling even more empowered to pull up my Big Girl Panties and move on with my life... because it's MY life.  
 
You are a person too, you know. A living breathing soul with a beating heart and an active mind. Your life matters just as much as his, if not more. Your world revolves around you... not him. You need to force yourself to start thinking that way.  
 
You're worth a lot, whether you're with him or not.  
 
Edited by Ahvah, 2015-08-11 10:14:32

Very well put Ahvah; And it actually works wonders.

Love has a veracious appetite and it will eat everything...family, friends, rational thinking.  
It seems these days Love comes with an expiration date. Usually under three years for common law and under 7 for Marriage.

Since I started dating if I broke up or if someone broke up with me I would have one boyfriend leaving out the back door while the new boyfriend was coming in the front door!  
I took 14 months off from dating anyone no friend dates (if the friend had a crush on me)  
I spent that yr figuring out who I was by myself without having a boyfriend by my side. It was one of the best decisions I had ever made. I grew so much in that time and learned so much about me as a person and I also learned a lot about life.  
When I started dating again I kept everything very light as in no committed relationships until one night in March 1999.  
I met "DH" I met (never met him before in my life) him March 4th, 1999, we were engaged March 17th, 1999, and got married Aug 21st,1999.  
I lost count on the number of ppl who said or thought we would never make it past our 2nd wedding anniversary! In ten days we will be celebrating our 16th wedding anniversary! Needless to say we have proven many ppl wrong.  
Had I not gone through what I did before meeting my husband I don't know if I could say I would have ever married him let alone even dated him!

Good to read all your comments. And in the mean time I figure out deeper I will focus on a pet.  
 
Edited by 1 chance, 2015-08-11 20:10:23

You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you just as much as you want to be with them.

kärlek said "You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you just as much as you want to be with them. "

know that. How many people are in unhappy relationship or marriage? I do not want be one of those.  
His cuteness gets me too.