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I been in relationship for 7 years with the most wonderful man I took for granted during our years together. We been through the worst during our time together. We do see each other when we have the chance to. I damage him so much I cannot forgive myself. When we last saw each I am now 4 months pregnant with his child. I want to fix my mistakes that I have made during the years I been with him. I would like us to be a family and raise our child together.I miss him so much. He keeps telling me he only wants to be friends now that he no longer has feelings for me. What do I do I want his love back?

You respect his wishes...  
Be careful you don't drive him away even more, especially since it can cause a huge mess once the kid is born.

Cynosure said "You respect his wishes...   Be careful you don't drive him away even more, especially since it can cause a huge mess once the kid is born. "

yup, i agree, respect him and his wishes and if there is anything there for him he will come around once you have shown him you have changed but he may be done romantically anyway and if he is the best thing is to remain friends for the baby and for you to work on moving on and learning from your mistakes so when the next great guy comes along you treat the relationship better  
 
Edited by traveller, 2015-11-26 15:16:32

may take long time or if you really finished him off and he has flat zero nothing left for you then sorry to say but you are done. Nothing you can do sadly to say.  
We have been taken for granted for long our bucket is not only empty but there is a whole in it

Yes, respect his wishes but quietly show him that you can be the woman he would want to love and be with for the rest of his life. So basically improve/change yourself into a woman you can be proud of, a woman any man would want to be with. And if he sees this, he may rekindle his love for you...and if not, you have still become a better woman.

Start taking care of yourself and your unborn baby and not worry about a man that no longer wants to be with you . If it was meant to be it will happen , don't get down on what could of been.

Thank you for all your opinions much appreciated helps a lot when you don't have much family and friends around. Again thank you.

I know you admit your mistakes now but you mistreated him for 7 years and now he is entitled to be happy for himself. you can't help him for not putting himself back in harms way as it will take you a long time to prove you have changed. you are pregnant and your emotions are high, and i have to wonder if you only want him back because of your situation. If you want him to be in your life as a friend and a co-parent then you have to stop thinking about what you want, you might push him further away and that wont benefit you or the baby in the long run.