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I met a real cute fella and he`s the first one I`ve been attracted to in a very long time.  
The honest truth is he is in his late 30s and I am in my early 60s.  
Should I bow out gracefully or what...

Age is just a number that's insignificant. Do what you want to do as we only live once so enjoy it.

Here's to you Mrs. Robinson! So long as you're both adults and both into it, age shouldn't matter.

You are both adults, so what's it matter. Go for it!

Merp said "You are both adults, so what's it matter. Go for it! "

but I also think you should consider what kind of relationship you both are looking for, considering your difference in age, and you're on the same page. Good luck!

Take your age, divide it by 2, and then add 7, and that should give you an idea.  
 
For example a 16 year old 16÷2=8+7= 15. If your 16 you shouldn't date anyone under 15  
 
An 18 year old 18÷2=9+7=16. An 18 year old shouldn't date anyone less than 16  
 
24 24÷2=12+7=19  
30 30÷2=15+7=22  
40 40÷2=20+7=27  
50 50÷2=25+7=32  
60 60÷2=30+7=37  
 
The older two people are, the less the age difference really matters, and the formula accounts for this.  

I like the mathematical calculator!!  
 
I have always dated with an age difference of more than 10 years!! The age doesn't really matter as long is your on the same page!! There are considerations to take into account though for the long haul (after the honeymoon stage):  
 
- ones desire to have biological children  
- physical ability/insurance coverage to travel when older - will this hold back the younger mate or cause issues...  
- financial stability of both partners or is one just wanting to be looked after (Sugar Momma or Sugar Daddy)  
- willing to not worry about outspoken people pointing out your age difference or making fun of your relationship  
- mate may have a daughter or son your age, that can be a great thing or could have issues especially if biological father is alive  
 
I wish you all the best...the pickings are very few and far between!!  

tangerinetoes said "I like the mathematical calculator!!     I have always dated with an age difference of more than 10 years!! The age doesn't really matter as long is your on the same page!! There are considerations to take into account though for the long haul (after the honeymoon stage):     - ones desire to have biological children   - physical ability/insurance coverage to travel when older - will this hold back the younger mate or cause issues...   - financial stability of both partners or is one just wanting to be looked after (Sugar Momma or Sugar Daddy)   - willing to not worry about outspoken people pointing out your age difference or making fun of your relationship   - mate may have a daughter or son your age, that can be a great thing or could have issues especially if biological father is alive     I wish you all the best...the pickings are very few and far between!!   "

the mathematical calculator dos seem to correspond to my personal feelings most on the age debate except for the other issues you mention as the age gets older  
 
someone in there 60's dating someone in there late 30's will run into huge lifestyle issues as the older one ages and the younger one either ends up being in a caregiver role or is held back from lifestyle choices that the older partner couldnt participate in  
 
70 dating a 42 y/o or 80 dating 47 doesnt seem like a great choice imo altho i can see admiring a person that much older personally i could never see them as a partner even if i love them for other reasons, while love is a huge part of a relationship why many fail imo is because partners dont look at all the life factors, money region and lifestyle needs and wants ect age would fit into the latter category and while anyone in their 30's is an adult and can make their own choices personally over a ten year age difference is to much imo  
 
for the OP tho, mo really doesnt matter, its yours and his you need to worry about so as long as you guys know your obstetricals then really its your call

Retirement. You will be retired long before he will, probably. Do you want to travel? Will he be able to go along or will you travel by yourself?  
 
Good luck in your choice.

I used to think age wasn't a huge deal, to some extent. However, a couple weekends ago at a party this came up as someone knew a couple who started dating when she was 17 and he was 47 or 57 (sorry, I have a terrible memory!) They've been together for years but now that's he's older it just seems strange....she wants kids but yet warms milk up for him before bed (seriously!!! Lol) I now think that age definitely needs to be considered and long term needs to be factored in. The more the person told us about the relationship, the more shocked I became and just kept thinking that this sounded like a TLC show haha

 
 
 
 
Edited by Dxxxxxxxx, 2015-11-29 20:12:45

sammy said "I used to think age wasn't a huge deal, to some extent. However, a couple weekends ago at a party this came up as someone knew a couple who started dating when she was 17 and he was 47 or 57 (sorry, I have a terrible memory!) They've been together for years but now that's he's older it just seems strange....she wants kids but yet warms milk up for him before bed (seriously!!! Lol) I now think that age definitely needs to be considered and long term needs to be factored in. The more the person told us about the relationship, the more shocked I became and just kept thinking that this sounded like a TLC show haha "

17 and 47 or 57? Lol that's too much of a difference. IMO And 17? Too young, not even an adult yet.  
 
 
Edited by Merp, 2015-11-29 22:14:25

LoonyCloon said "I met a real cute fella and he`s the first one I`ve been attracted to in a very long time.   The honest truth is he is in his late 30s and I am in my early 60s.   Should I bow out gracefully or what... "

Thank you for the input and have made one definite decision-I`m moving to Brandon!!!  
The relationship is out.

LoonyCloon said "    LoonyCloon said "I met a real cute fella and he`s the first one I`ve been attracted to in a very long time.   The honest truth is he is in his late 30s and I am in my early 60s.   Should I bow out gracefully or what... " Thank you for the input and have made one definite decision-I`m moving to Brandon!!!   The relationship is out. "

sorry to hear this one didnt work out, hopefully you find what you are looking for and good luck with your move