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I know there has been some posts about this already but I'm a single female 29 looking for a good man. Stupid I know they all seem good at first lol with all the other posts has anybody found that good person around here?

Ugh! I just don't know anymore either :/  
 
Sorry, not a big fan if men at the moment.

I'm with u on that actually.

Be yourself. I'm sure you'll find someone that you'll be happy with.

Please do not dump all men into the same box, no one deserves to be labeled. There are lots of us good men out there. Both men and women have their issues and shortcomings. None of us has it all figured out. Life is a journey of learning and growing and we all need to be kind and do the best we can. We can not change other people, only ourselves. Be patient and real and caring and one of us will come your way  
Thank you!

You say you are looking for a guy, but then say that you've sort of given up on men. Maybe it's just me, but isn't an attitude like that just a recipe for disaster.  
Not picking on you, but maybe society in general, when it comes to this dating issue. Finding that (perfect) person has always been a challenge, but in today's world it seems that way to many people are in to much of a hurry, and are looking for what they can get out of a relationship as opposed to what they are willing to put into it.  
Both men and women get burned when it comes to dating and finding that right person, and I sometimes wonder if people, on both sides, don't give the other person a chance, or maybe a second chance, to see how things work out.  
Best of luck to those looking for a partner, but try and approach it with a good attitude.

I don't dislike men. Some men ruin it for others but girls do as well. I'd just like to meet some people hang out and see what happens. Making new friends is always good to but finding them is hard to do sometimes.

I'm currently going through a divorce, but with a new woman...and I couldn't be happier! I'll just say this, I wouldn't leave my daughters alone with most of the men I work with. It seems like most men are looking for a woman to make them happy, with very little regard for what the woman wants. It actually disgusts me. I can certainly understand why most people can't find that right future-mate.

It's very true tho. About 95% of the men I have met so far want me to make them happy but csnt do that in return. It's not worth it. I do know there r good men out there just need to find them..

It's about growing or growing up. I was like that myself and I did learn a big lesson. When I looked back at how my ex and I was, I felt there were times I was selfish. Not doing things with her that I should. Some of my guy friends I find are still like that.

Ya some people don't see it until it's over but u live and learn right learn from ur mistakes. I have that's for sure

If he was only pretending to be interested in me, all the while being in love with someone else for those three months we "dated"...then.......  
 
I've still never had a boyfriend. Don't know what to think of that...hmmm

Don't give up - I found my forever man in my 40's on Lava Life  
Dating site-  
 
Stay positive!

Sometimes there can be expectations one side and not the other that causes problems off the hop. The other thing I've seen is to many people rushing and not taking the time to really know someone. Right now I just meet friends and see where things go. No expectations no let downs is my moto. 31 single guy here.

I messaged you

only been in brandon a year but find that women are the same as what your saying about men here

But, I was becoming really attached. And he knew it. But I stand by the fact he was a user.  
 
That's why I become infuriated with this new way of dating multiple people at once and then deciding who you like better....where does that leave the chumps like me who are falling in love with someone falling in love with someone else?  
 
It's not right and it's not fair.  
 
Four times in a row...four men who each used me and lied to me. And they were first men I met since moving to Brandon.  
 

...do similar, focus on making friends....that backfired on me as well.  
 
I just seem doomed to attract the wrong types of guys.  
 
Like I said...I just don't know anymore. And your right, it affects life. I bombed a midterm in one class. Starting to not care about stuff like used to. Blah! :/

But most days now it's a losing battle. I stress more over appearance and behavior...keep thinking it's obviously something about me that's unlovable.  
 
It's odd how damaging this experience has been. Even I see it and some days I feel silly and perk right up....the next I feel so self conscious I don't even leave home. My brain is just a jumbled up mess of thoughts and emotions, lol.  
 
Today is another blah day

Another single one here.. I am divorced, 32, male... It really is hard to find a good woman who is loyal, caring, outgoing and thoughtful. Most women in Brandon and area have outrageous expectations and just want to be takin care of. I've been on several dates and most didn't last long because she couldn't let go of her ex. Am I doomed to be single as long as I am here?

Jovial said "But most days now it's a losing battle. I stress more over appearance and behavior...keep thinking it's obviously something about me that's unlovable.     It's odd how damaging this experience has been. Even I see it and some days I feel silly and perk right up....the next I feel so self conscious I don't even leave home. My brain is just a jumbled up mess of thoughts and emotions, lol.     Today is another blah day "

Just be yourself, let your true smile shine. I don't bother dressing any fancier to impress people I just stay comfortable. Some of the situations can certainly be very changing and damaging, you will find someone that, as odd as it sounds, makes the hurt all worth while, and will change you back for the better.

@Half_Mast  
 
I don't know, but it's kind of the feeling I get in regards to this city. Stay and be doomed to bachelor/spinster hood.  
 
I have quite a life story (and small town) so please take much of my sheltered-life-bias-meets-big-city-social-disappointment with a grain of salt.  
 
I just don't know what the problem is...my friend told me I went above and beyond what a normal boyfriend would do in any relationship. I'm that type of person. However my best still isn't enough to please anyone. And for someone like me, with already limited options, my future relationship future looks quite bleak.  
 
And the next married twit that seeks me out is getting a lecture...grrrrrrrrr.........

Thank everyone for their encouragement. It's much appreciated and none of you may know just how much those little niceties help.

GhOsTID said "    Jovial said "...do similar, focus on making friends....that backfired on me as well.     I just seem doomed to attract the wrong types of guys.     Like I said...I just don't know anymore. And your right, it affects life. I bombed a midterm in one class. Starting to not care about stuff like used to. Blah! :/ " It starts with you! You just need to pull a Stuart Smalley and remind yourself that you're good enough, smart enough, and dog gone it people like you! Then refuse to settle for any less than what you deserve.     In all honesty he had many more even better affirmations but how can you go wrong with the classics? Provided you remember/watched SNL back then :-P     "

"It's easier to put on a pair of slippers, than to carpet the entire world."  
Love Stuart!

Well it stands firm, the saying nice guys finish last.. I haven't given up yet but I am getting pretty discouraged whenever I meet a girl and they say I'm too nice, or that they don't deserve me. Buddies of mine in Brandon treat girls like crap, and these girls stick around?! I'm just a simple hard working and outgoing guy who wants a girl to enjoy life with... Too much to ask?

Where do 30 something singles hang out in this town?

1. Heartbeat

Lol that's a good one

Livelife29 said "Lol that's a good one "

We are all pretty much pigs, but we can tone the piggy down when woo'ing happens. We don't actually realize we are pigs until we are told or have visual aids in front of us. Now i used to think that once you get passed the first few dates and have some common goals and think there might be a connection..having things in common is fine..but if either of you can let that first fart out without feeling bad, even if it has like a 10 minute hang time..its meant to be. You have to trust the body language and functions, and definitely have a sense of humor.

Very well said