rubyred said "How would you handle this situation this person is coming to see me and other family members if I tried to discourage them they get all defensive and have a fit . I just do not understand why a person would choose to come with everything upside down ,sideways backwards very risky.. "
Are they staying with you?
Personally, I would look forward to the visit. But it doesn’t sound like you are. Are other people in Brandon looking forward to it?
If they aren’t staying with you, then all you have to say is you hope they enjoy their visit but you won’t be able to visit with them face to face.
If they want to stay with you then you will have to tell them they can’t.