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ok i start this off i dont want to be bashed i am not trying to start a fight or anything i just dont know what to do.  
 
I am having troubles with my freind, she is always complaining to me about how she wants to leave her man etc and when i take her side she turns on me and says i shouldnt be calling her bf names or anything even tho she started it. I also have family coming in my house always acting like they are better, or they only come here to be like look what i got new and to rub things in my face.  
 
I dont know what to do, i have told them multipul times can we talk about something else of if you dont want to stop talking about it dont come here. i am starting to get stressed out. like my freind if i dont answer her she was email me or inbox me on facebook or call me just to complain about her man. And my family will also make sure i know about the newest thing or how much better they are  
 
What do i do??